The Words Fell Out of My Mouth
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The Words Fell Out of My Mouth
Ok, some words fell out of my mouth today that I thought might be helpful to others who are struggling with being married to an alcoholic.
We were talking about his going to meetings (or lack thereof). I calmly said...
"Please don't think I am judging you or being selfish. I will be ok, whether you go to meetings or not. It is you that I am worried about. I want you to succeed, for you - because I care about you."
Now it's your turn - what fell out of your mouth?
We were talking about his going to meetings (or lack thereof). I calmly said...
"Please don't think I am judging you or being selfish. I will be ok, whether you go to meetings or not. It is you that I am worried about. I want you to succeed, for you - because I care about you."
Now it's your turn - what fell out of your mouth?
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I said,
"I know you have done some bad things, and I have been on the other end. I know that I assaulted you verbally and endlessly each time I found out about another woman, or another lie, or another year went by with no financial help for our son...But I do feel sad and sorry about assaulting you verbally. I did treat you badly. And I am not happy about that EVEN if it was ever 'justified' in my heart or by the book. I became a person that I did not want to be in response to your behavior, and I am sorry that I said these horrible things for so long."
"I know you have done some bad things, and I have been on the other end. I know that I assaulted you verbally and endlessly each time I found out about another woman, or another lie, or another year went by with no financial help for our son...But I do feel sad and sorry about assaulting you verbally. I did treat you badly. And I am not happy about that EVEN if it was ever 'justified' in my heart or by the book. I became a person that I did not want to be in response to your behavior, and I am sorry that I said these horrible things for so long."
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Wow...good post.
This just happened 30 minutes ago.
I all of a sudden felt this real need to pray for exah. Not sure why or what for...but just pray.
I sent him a text:
I am praying for you.
My faith is not something he and I discussed much. He was very threatened by it most of the time and made comments. When we were together I pretty much put my faith on the back burner. This situation has brought me back to a very strong faith, but still something exah and I don't discuss.
This just happened 30 minutes ago.
I all of a sudden felt this real need to pray for exah. Not sure why or what for...but just pray.
I sent him a text:
I am praying for you.
My faith is not something he and I discussed much. He was very threatened by it most of the time and made comments. When we were together I pretty much put my faith on the back burner. This situation has brought me back to a very strong faith, but still something exah and I don't discuss.
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We are going through a rollercoaster of good times and bad times. Lately I could just feel him going toward the bad times and the words that fell out of my mouth:
"I can tell you are going back to the old way where your only interest is getting laid or getting loaded"....
"I can tell you are going back to the old way where your only interest is getting laid or getting loaded"....
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