Hilarious
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My first XH has been getting all grabby with me now that I"ve left AH. He's a great friend, we've been divorced for 20 years, but I do NOT want to sleep with him.
I've told him that point blank, because that's how I am. Brutally honest. Too rude in fact at times. But he wasn't giving up until MOnday when I figured out how to get him to leave me alone.
I invited him over for dinner, then I wasn't here when he arrived (told him to go on in the door was unlocked) and the place was trashed. Laundry on the couch, kitchen a mess. He's a neat freak and hates when people are late.
The kids and I arrived after he'd eaten just as he was leaving. He was grateful for the meal, but hasn't tried to touch me since.
I think this is an improvement on my communication I think because I"m pretty much a bull in a china shop with regard to how I speak my mind to others, or can be a bully as well, trying to control them. But now it's his idea to not be attracted to me! I didn't have to get nasty, just be myself. More or less!
I've told him that point blank, because that's how I am. Brutally honest. Too rude in fact at times. But he wasn't giving up until MOnday when I figured out how to get him to leave me alone.
I invited him over for dinner, then I wasn't here when he arrived (told him to go on in the door was unlocked) and the place was trashed. Laundry on the couch, kitchen a mess. He's a neat freak and hates when people are late.
The kids and I arrived after he'd eaten just as he was leaving. He was grateful for the meal, but hasn't tried to touch me since.
I think this is an improvement on my communication I think because I"m pretty much a bull in a china shop with regard to how I speak my mind to others, or can be a bully as well, trying to control them. But now it's his idea to not be attracted to me! I didn't have to get nasty, just be myself. More or less!
Last edited by transformyself; 10-29-2009 at 11:11 AM.
I Love Who I Am
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Um, do you think I"m kidding? I"m not! I cannot make my house immaculate. I am very good at a few things but am a domestic nightmare. So the ex wants to be intimate, I gave him a good look at the whole package. If he pushes it, I'll just fart near him next. I can do that after yoga, it all comes out!
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Originally Posted by transformyself 
Um, do you think I"m kidding? I"m not! I cannot make my house immaculate. I am very good at a few things but am a domestic nightmare. So the ex wants to be intimate, I gave him a good look at the whole package. If he pushes it, I'll just fart near him next. I can do that after yoga, it all comes out!
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