Originally Posted by transformyself

I think this type of thinking/resentment kept me in an unsafe, torturous, unhappy, abusive relationship for a long time.

When I make my life exciting and wonderful, when I start looking within and facing my demons and flushing out what kind of person I want to be outside of my relationship with my AH, things change dramatically.

Yes, it's scary to be faced with myself.
Yes, it's easier and initially more comfortable to focus on my AH, his drinking, etc.

But as of today, when I look inside at my potential I get excited about change, about being the one that "has to make the change." I"m thrilled!