To Earthworm/ thank you .RE: .XAB
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To Earthworm/ thank you .RE: .XAB
Earthworm,
This was your reply about a month or so ago I posted thread "Is this guy AB crazy, abusive or what?" . . .remember you replied to that post? . . .your reply is below . . ...
well I wanted to thank you becuase he Fessed up that he DID mean everything
that he said when he was drinking (truth serum) BINGO! You were right
thank you . . ..but I'm shocked that he admitted it . .
Also I wanted to tell you that he showed up at my door after 3 weeks of
breaking up with him, he told me to my face that when he said
"shut the f* up and roll over and go to bed", he told me after thinking
long and hard (why would He say something so terrible to me?) he told
me that that's how his x treated HIM and he took it out on me. There's
more that he said but I'll pass . . I told him I don't hate you but
we can be JUST friends . . I told him you're not over your X (she died of cancer 3 years ago and put him thru a living h*ll for 17 years. I also
told him you need time, you're not ready for a relationship and maybe
you will NEVER get over her but I'm not a candidate to be your girlfriend
becuase you have demons to deal with and I'm not out to try to
compensate for what she did to you nor replace her, nor put myself
in a position where I will EVER be abused again. You need to figure
it out yourself, I am not out to be anybody's saviour . .there's more
but I'll stop there. . . .I was just shocked that he fessed up to being
abusive. He wants another chance but I won't give him one.
Thank you . .. .he really did mean what he said when he drank.
I was happy that he fessed up, but sad that looking back all the
abuse was directed towards me , but being drunk I guess he
was taking it out on me and not the X becuase he can't get over
her or get her out of his head . .. and I know it will take him
more "YEARS" to get over her and I decided that I don't want
to play the waiting game for him to get his crap together . .. I'll stop there.
thank you earthworm .....
you're very insightful and you helped me see what I couldn't
Debs
I wrote and your reply below:
He'll say something really hurtful or stupid when he drinks and then
(next day says that I remind him of his X )that I was egging him on
or looking to start an argument. . .like WHAT? . .I'm just looking for
"clarity". He shuts down , rolls over, tells me "STOP, SHUT UP, or the other nite, he said "SHUT UP and ROLL over , go to bed"
Well first of all he does mean what he says the alcohol just helps him say it. Telling you yo "shut-up and roll over" Are you the family dog? Sounds like a woman hater and abusive to me.
This was your reply about a month or so ago I posted thread "Is this guy AB crazy, abusive or what?" . . .remember you replied to that post? . . .your reply is below . . ...
well I wanted to thank you becuase he Fessed up that he DID mean everything
that he said when he was drinking (truth serum) BINGO! You were right
thank you . . ..but I'm shocked that he admitted it . .
Also I wanted to tell you that he showed up at my door after 3 weeks of
breaking up with him, he told me to my face that when he said
"shut the f* up and roll over and go to bed", he told me after thinking
long and hard (why would He say something so terrible to me?) he told
me that that's how his x treated HIM and he took it out on me. There's
more that he said but I'll pass . . I told him I don't hate you but
we can be JUST friends . . I told him you're not over your X (she died of cancer 3 years ago and put him thru a living h*ll for 17 years. I also
told him you need time, you're not ready for a relationship and maybe
you will NEVER get over her but I'm not a candidate to be your girlfriend
becuase you have demons to deal with and I'm not out to try to
compensate for what she did to you nor replace her, nor put myself
in a position where I will EVER be abused again. You need to figure
it out yourself, I am not out to be anybody's saviour . .there's more
but I'll stop there. . . .I was just shocked that he fessed up to being
abusive. He wants another chance but I won't give him one.
Thank you . .. .he really did mean what he said when he drank.
I was happy that he fessed up, but sad that looking back all the
abuse was directed towards me , but being drunk I guess he
was taking it out on me and not the X becuase he can't get over
her or get her out of his head . .. and I know it will take him
more "YEARS" to get over her and I decided that I don't want
to play the waiting game for him to get his crap together . .. I'll stop there.
thank you earthworm .....
you're very insightful and you helped me see what I couldn't
Debs
I wrote and your reply below:
He'll say something really hurtful or stupid when he drinks and then
(next day says that I remind him of his X )that I was egging him on
or looking to start an argument. . .like WHAT? . .I'm just looking for
"clarity". He shuts down , rolls over, tells me "STOP, SHUT UP, or the other nite, he said "SHUT UP and ROLL over , go to bed"
Well first of all he does mean what he says the alcohol just helps him say it. Telling you yo "shut-up and roll over" Are you the family dog? Sounds like a woman hater and abusive to me.
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Originally Posted by Deb42 
I'm not a candidate to be your girlfriend becuase you have demons to deal with and I'm not out to try to compensate for what she did to you nor replace her, nor put myself in a position where I will EVER be abused again. You need to figure it out yourself, I am not out to be anybody's saviour .
Time to change your location from "Powerless, PA" to "Self-Empowered, PA!!!"
(Sorry, I know this was a sort of privately directed post, but I had to cheer you on anyway!)
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Well first of all he does mean what he says the alcohol just helps him say it.
Ouch... that's true... its like the demons are unleashed. Thank you for the reminder that "alcohol" does not "make anyone" do anything, they choose to do it themselves... and no one needs people like that in their life
Keep moving forward!!
Ouch... that's true... its like the demons are unleashed. Thank you for the reminder that "alcohol" does not "make anyone" do anything, they choose to do it themselves... and no one needs people like that in their life
Keep moving forward!!
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