Quack of the Day
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In a voice mail this evening.... talking to me about why she cheated on me....
"You need to show some accountablitly here and own up to your part [in her decision to cheat. I hope that one day you will apologize to me."
Hmm... she decides to cheat on me.... it is my fault... and I need to apologize.
That is a super quack!
"You need to show some accountablitly here and own up to your part [in her decision to cheat. I hope that one day you will apologize to me."
Hmm... she decides to cheat on me.... it is my fault... and I need to apologize.
That is a super quack!
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Originally Posted by Still Waters 
"I wouldn't even know what to talk with a therapist about..."
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Originally Posted by TrainWreckAgain
"You need to show some accountablitly here and own up to your part [in her decision to cheat. I hope that one day you will apologize to me."
Hmm... she decides to cheat on me.... it is my fault... and I need to apologize.
That is a super quack!
Hmm... she decides to cheat on me.... it is my fault... and I need to apologize.
That is a super quack!
NO MORE YEAH BUTS!!!
Last night he told me that I just need to accept suffering (his word!) through him drinking and whatever personality I think he gets because over the last two years he's suffered PLENTY because of me and/or my kids.
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Funny quacks I heard from AH:
"Somebody at work gave me this bottle as a Christmas gift, and I brought it home for you to drink."
"I won this case of beer at work at a raffle."
"That bottle is from an old stash, from when I used to drink."
"I haven't been drinking."
"Everyone lies."
Standard reactions to my questions went along the lines of:
1. act like he didn't hear what I said
2. say "what?" to get me to repeat it, giving him time to think of an answer
3. repeat the question, giving him more time
4. answer the question with a question if possible, such as "why?"
5. answer with an overly detailed lie, while looking me in the eye
A quick giveaway that he has been drinking is his choice of words - he is not a "valley girl" but uses the word "like" between every other word.
"Somebody at work gave me this bottle as a Christmas gift, and I brought it home for you to drink."
"I won this case of beer at work at a raffle."
"That bottle is from an old stash, from when I used to drink."
"I haven't been drinking."
"Everyone lies."
Standard reactions to my questions went along the lines of:
1. act like he didn't hear what I said
2. say "what?" to get me to repeat it, giving him time to think of an answer
3. repeat the question, giving him more time
4. answer the question with a question if possible, such as "why?"
5. answer with an overly detailed lie, while looking me in the eye
A quick giveaway that he has been drinking is his choice of words - he is not a "valley girl" but uses the word "like" between every other word.
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Not with him anymore, but heard a lot of stuff like this:
"I have finally found who I really am, and I like the new me."
or
"I always have fun when I've been drinking."
or
"Well, at least I'm not an alcoholic like those people I saw when I went to AA."
and last but not least
"We are just friends, I stayed over her house a few times to play cards all night and I drank to much. What's wrong with that? Your over reacting. I didn't tell you the truth because I knew YOU WOULD BE MAD! What is wrong with YOU? Why don't you ever believe ME?"
"I have finally found who I really am, and I like the new me."
or
"I always have fun when I've been drinking."
or
"Well, at least I'm not an alcoholic like those people I saw when I went to AA."
and last but not least
"We are just friends, I stayed over her house a few times to play cards all night and I drank to much. What's wrong with that? Your over reacting. I didn't tell you the truth because I knew YOU WOULD BE MAD! What is wrong with YOU? Why don't you ever believe ME?"
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Oh yeah, mine said the "everyone is an alcoholic" bit too. Even accussed me of being an alcoholic - and I don't drink ever (makes my stomach burn).
Oh and I forgot: "I'll never drive on amateur night, to many nuts out there." He doesn't drive on New Years Eve or the fouth of July because all of the people that "don't know how to drive drunk" are out there. Of course, he is a "professional drunk driver", so in his mind he is not dangerous.
Sick, sick, sick.
Oh and I forgot: "I'll never drive on amateur night, to many nuts out there." He doesn't drive on New Years Eve or the fouth of July because all of the people that "don't know how to drive drunk" are out there. Of course, he is a "professional drunk driver", so in his mind he is not dangerous.
Sick, sick, sick.
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Originally Posted by TakingTime
This is scarily familiar. My X did two sessions with a counsellor (very much under duress) and stopped because 'I didn't have anything to say to her', and 'she kept looking at me like she was wondering if I was sober'. along with 'I don't have any issues. I have really good self-esteem. You have problems with self-esteem'.
When I suggested individual counseling (I was already going) I was told I'd go to marriage counseling with him or I'd get out.
Well, I got out
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Originally Posted by brundle
When confronting AH about lying I was told:"You lie too!"
I said give me one example; he said:"You didn't tell me about your cat using kitty litter!" LOL!!!!!:rotfxko
I said give me one example; he said:"You didn't tell me about your cat using kitty litter!" LOL!!!!!:rotfxko
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When I found an empty 12 pack box of beer in his truck (when he was supposed to have attended an AA meeting) he told me, "That someone must have put it there when he was in the meeting."
He's also said that "an illegal alien left beer in the car." I have no idea where that came from, but he stuck with it and has used it several times.
He's also said that he "can't wrap his mind around these AA people. That it is really just a cult. That he will be like those people who are addicted to AA and not beer which isn't good." Hmmm no one I know has ever gotten a DUI from attending AA buddy.
He's also said that "an illegal alien left beer in the car." I have no idea where that came from, but he stuck with it and has used it several times.
He's also said that he "can't wrap his mind around these AA people. That it is really just a cult. That he will be like those people who are addicted to AA and not beer which isn't good." Hmmm no one I know has ever gotten a DUI from attending AA buddy.
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Originally Posted by brundle
When confronting AH about lying I was told:"You lie too!"
I said give me one example; he said:"You didn't tell me about your cat using kitty litter!" LOL!!!!!:rotfxko
I said give me one example; he said:"You didn't tell me about your cat using kitty litter!" LOL!!!!!:rotfxko
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Originally Posted by brundle
When confronting AH about lying I was told:"You lie too!"
I said give me one example; he said:"You didn't tell me about your cat using kitty litter!" LOL!!!!!:rotfxko
I said give me one example; he said:"You didn't tell me about your cat using kitty litter!" LOL!!!!!:rotfxko
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"I used to drink pretty hard, but stopped 2 years ago, and now just drink lightly to just get a little buzz on...."
Like 4 beers in an hour....
"We can stay at **** house for a bottle of whiskey. Be good to see him".... We were doing a road trip and he planned for us to stay at his friends house for a night. That was the payment, not good company and conversation. Not just happy to see you... a bottle of whiskey. Then I got the pleasure of watching his "friend" be completely antisocial to him and drink the whiskey with another loser friend that came over. Felt like I was at dive bar....Was glad when we left.
Like 4 beers in an hour....
"We can stay at **** house for a bottle of whiskey. Be good to see him".... We were doing a road trip and he planned for us to stay at his friends house for a night. That was the payment, not good company and conversation. Not just happy to see you... a bottle of whiskey. Then I got the pleasure of watching his "friend" be completely antisocial to him and drink the whiskey with another loser friend that came over. Felt like I was at dive bar....Was glad when we left.
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