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Old 07-17-2009, 08:20 AM
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Old 07-17-2009, 01:08 PM
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I'm doing pretty well today. I have noticed in the last four months as various guys approach me that I am consistently more interested in the ones that are least healthy. That has helped me to really come to terms with the fact that I, too, have a sickness. I have not contacted my a xb despite learning he is continuing the process of joining rehab. I'm very happy for all the encouragement, so thank you all!
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Old 07-17-2009, 01:15 PM
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Amen!! Well said!

The whole "no rel'ship is perfect" sounds like something an abuser would say, when you call him on his behavior.
OMG. That is exactly what my AB says...sheesh. And then after that comes 'You're just never happy...never satisfied....you'll never be happy.'

Funny that my marijuana addict ex, and my porn-addict ex, both said the exact same things.
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Old 07-17-2009, 01:30 PM
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Hi Hope,

Right now I am taking time off from relationships to focus on me and why I pick certain men who are not the best partners. It is lonely, but I am finding out lots about myself so hopefully when I am ready to date again I will select healthier people.

I saw a therapist for about 6 months, attended al anon and continue to post here. In addition I read books helpful to people involved with unhealthy relationships. For me it is about 8-9 months without the ex and I struggle with certain things, but keep moving somewhere. Time is not a cure all, but it really does help with perspective on many things.

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Old 07-17-2009, 02:00 PM
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Originally Posted by HOPEKNOWS View Post
I'm doing pretty well today. I have noticed in the last four months as various guys approach me that I am consistently more interested in the ones that are least healthy. That has helped me to really come to terms with the fact that I, too, have a sickness. I have not contacted my a xb despite learning he is continuing the process of joining rehab. I'm very happy for all the encouragement, so thank you all!

Hugs, (((hopeknows)))
Keep following that feeling of relief and freedom, and it will lead you to a life you love. Thanks for checking in with us!
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