What it's like to live with an alcoholic.
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Originally Posted by angelcake 
sometimes people can over analize things, and be quite judgemental without realising it. If you want some peace in your life its better to forgive and move on
here is what you posted:
Originally Posted by angelcake
Life with an alcoholic partner sucks
.Anyone who wants to know weather or not they should carry on dating that person with a (or maybe a ) drink problem needs to get as far away from that person as they can.
he used to beat me
i feel desperate for a bit of attention ,love anything
My partner is 41 and yet i feel like his mother
i do everything deal with the money, house ,kids on my own
he says he is trying to stay sober another day
It feels like constant emotional blackmail and it always comes back to that same old thing DRINK
.They will lie to you on a regular basis
make really bad decisions
cheat on you
spend all your money when theve spent theirs
lose their jobs ,
get in debt ,
get arrested,
not come home,
get deppresion,
embarrass you in front of your family,
they will even lose control of they bodily functions
yes i mean i have been weeed on several times
they stop washing and keeping themselves clean
you can forget about sex i may as well join a convent , that goes out of the window too , not that you feel like it anyway half the time its hard to fancy someone after all this!
Its the love i miss and the security and just having someone there to make you smile
there are no laughs when you live with an alcoholic just an emptyness and hurt and guilt because at the end of it you know that they have a disease and that no matter what you do or anyone else does they will never be cured from it.
.Anyone who wants to know weather or not they should carry on dating that person with a (or maybe a ) drink problem needs to get as far away from that person as they can.
he used to beat me
i feel desperate for a bit of attention ,love anything
My partner is 41 and yet i feel like his mother
i do everything deal with the money, house ,kids on my own
he says he is trying to stay sober another day
It feels like constant emotional blackmail and it always comes back to that same old thing DRINK
.They will lie to you on a regular basis
make really bad decisions
cheat on you
spend all your money when theve spent theirs
lose their jobs ,
get in debt ,
get arrested,
not come home,
get deppresion,
embarrass you in front of your family,
they will even lose control of they bodily functions
yes i mean i have been weeed on several times
they stop washing and keeping themselves clean
you can forget about sex i may as well join a convent , that goes out of the window too , not that you feel like it anyway half the time its hard to fancy someone after all this!
Its the love i miss and the security and just having someone there to make you smile
there are no laughs when you live with an alcoholic just an emptyness and hurt and guilt because at the end of it you know that they have a disease and that no matter what you do or anyone else does they will never be cured from it.
The circumstances you listed here are fairly common on this board, you aren't alone. Have you read the stickies at the top of the forum?
Originally Posted by angelcake
i choose to stay because i love him.
Are there any resources you can reach out to? Alanon? centers for battered women? Therapy?
You are worth so much more then this, and so are your children.
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sometimes people can over analize things, and be quite judgemental without realising it. If you want some peace in your life its better to forgive and move on
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No offence meant but we often say "....but I love him," to justify all sorts of unacceptable behaviour. Love is not an excuse to subject yourself to less than you and your children deserve. You deserve the best life has to offer and this doesn't sound like that.
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Run like the wind.
Originally Posted by angelcake
i just want people to understand that once youve been in a relationship for a long time its really hard to end it just like that .
God Bless. Good luck.
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