Mantras
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Mantras
Hi
Newbie here. I am not yet comfortable giving too much away. Situation is really, really bad, need some phrases to keep me sane. One suggested was:
"I refuse to participate in your alcoholic behaviour by supporting it"
Does anyone have any other suggestions?
Newbie here. I am not yet comfortable giving too much away. Situation is really, really bad, need some phrases to keep me sane. One suggested was:
"I refuse to participate in your alcoholic behaviour by supporting it"
Does anyone have any other suggestions?
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Hello Still Waters
I have already asked my pop to go to alanon and he agreed. Trouble is my mam. She is dying of cancer and does not want anything to upset the applecart. Meanwhile she is basically being tortured in her last weeks and I can't do anything. That's why I need something to get me through this time. Alanon is going to have to wait until later. I am doing some reading and a lot of lurking. It has taken some time to get up the courage to post.
I have already asked my pop to go to alanon and he agreed. Trouble is my mam. She is dying of cancer and does not want anything to upset the applecart. Meanwhile she is basically being tortured in her last weeks and I can't do anything. That's why I need something to get me through this time. Alanon is going to have to wait until later. I am doing some reading and a lot of lurking. It has taken some time to get up the courage to post.
"Nothing changes if nothing changes...Let it begin with me."
What are YOU willing to do? Because that is all you have control of.
Move your focus to yourself and determine what you can do to ease your stress and change your situation.
What are YOU willing to do? Because that is all you have control of.
Move your focus to yourself and determine what you can do to ease your stress and change your situation.
Hello Still Waters
I have already asked my pop to go to alanon and he agreed. Trouble is my mam. She is dying of cancer and does not want anything to upset the applecart. Meanwhile she is basically being tortured in her last weeks and I can't do anything. That's why I need something to get me through this time. Alanon is going to have to wait until later. I am doing some reading and a lot of lurking. It has taken some time to get up the courage to post.
I have already asked my pop to go to alanon and he agreed. Trouble is my mam. She is dying of cancer and does not want anything to upset the applecart. Meanwhile she is basically being tortured in her last weeks and I can't do anything. That's why I need something to get me through this time. Alanon is going to have to wait until later. I am doing some reading and a lot of lurking. It has taken some time to get up the courage to post.
Tortured? Not sure I understand.
If you feel more comfortable, feel free to PM me or any of us here to talk.
Sounds like a very tough situation though. Prayers and hugs to you AnotherChance.
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Thanks SW, can't PM until 5 posts.
No she is not alcoholic. But she has supported him for many years. He switched from heroin to alcohol and I think she is terrified he will go back. I live too far away for daily input. She needs help around the house and she has to pay him for doing chores. Both parents are now frail and not up to standing up to him. I am, but have to bide my time, and hopefully remain sane whilst waiting.
No she is not alcoholic. But she has supported him for many years. He switched from heroin to alcohol and I think she is terrified he will go back. I live too far away for daily input. She needs help around the house and she has to pay him for doing chores. Both parents are now frail and not up to standing up to him. I am, but have to bide my time, and hopefully remain sane whilst waiting.
Hi AnotherChance
Glad you are posting, please keep doing it, this is a safe place to get the emotions out, no one will judge you.
"I am taken care of by God", if you are a believer, otherwise you can replace God by any Higher Power of your choice.
Glad you are posting, please keep doing it, this is a safe place to get the emotions out, no one will judge you.
"I am taken care of by God", if you are a believer, otherwise you can replace God by any Higher Power of your choice.
Thanks SW, can't PM until 5 posts.
No she is not alcoholic. But she has supported him for many years. He switched from heroin to alcohol and I think she is terrified he will go back. I live too far away for daily input. She needs help around the house and she has to pay him for doing chores. Both parents are now frail and not up to standing up to him. I am, but have to bide my time, and hopefully remain sane whilst waiting.
No she is not alcoholic. But she has supported him for many years. He switched from heroin to alcohol and I think she is terrified he will go back. I live too far away for daily input. She needs help around the house and she has to pay him for doing chores. Both parents are now frail and not up to standing up to him. I am, but have to bide my time, and hopefully remain sane whilst waiting.
Ah, I see. I assume he is an adult. Very sad and stressful situation for them and you, however - do know that you have no control over them, or him. I mean that you can't now nor could you have earlier forced them to recognize the enabling going on. So, don't beat yourself up with that, when you have so much else going on.
I can imagine myself dealing with a lot of anger in this situation.
Big hugs again. We're (one or another of us) are always here, if you need to talk.
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