naive

ok. i know i'm responsible for my life and i do plan on getting on with it but if i may, can i get this off my chest?

i am sick and tired of:

the lies
the manipulation
the blame
the infidelities
the promises
the phone calls saying he's on his way home
the car accidents
the lack of teamwork
the poverty
the other drunks
the depression
the manic highs
the selfishness
the missed flights
the flirting
the bar fights
the crocodile tears
the insomnia
the sleeping all day long
the peeing the bed
the losing of the house key over and over
the selfish sex
the cigarette burns
the children sad
the childen hungry
the perverted requests
the lack of true intimacy
the violence
the threats
the breaking down of the door
the lack of simple maintenance, like replacing a lightbulb
the stuff that's ruined due to laziness
the denial
the total lack of accountability
the lack of remorse
the accusations
the projections
the lack of personal hygiene
the pee on the bathroom floor and the toilet seat
the phone calls from the pub
the desperateness
the using of other people
the debt
the constant borrowing
the crimes
the police
the drinking

freya

Sounds pretty bad......bad enough for you to be sick and tired of being sick and tired???????

freya

Freedom1990

Print that list out for yourself.

If you're anything like me, I tended to have 'selective' memory and that's why I stayed stuck in misery for 5 long years.

:ghug :ghug :ghug

naive

freedom-

i find since i've left ABF, i forget until someone here mentions something, and then i'm like "oh yeah, how could i forget that?"

Still Waters

I don't know if that's a codie thing, or something that happens when you're so sucked into their vortex. But, it's true of many of us.

I notice pee is a recurring theme in your rant :P

Is it too much to ask that we have men that are potty trained for goodness sakes?

Barbara52

I agree. Print it out and carry it with you for those mements when your resolve to do what is best for you weakens. You don't deserve any of that stuff and nonsense!

GiveLove

Absolutely do print it out and carry it in your purse.

And every time you talk to him on the phone, you can pull out your list and check off what he's doing......and remind yourself how sick to death of it you are.

We DO tend to forget if we don't have a tangible reminder...

Daisy30

This was a nice reminder for me as well...I can relate to many things on your list.

bluejay6

so much vulgarity and pain.
it is a testament to the power of the disease that in spite of this long list of realities, many people will still stay with an active addict.

many blessings to you in a new life.

tallulah

That stood out for me.

You know, wet or dry, that is unacceptable and whether he stops drinking or not if he can't manage his anger he can't manage his anger.

So far you have a list to remind you of this rather than scars and pain. Please don't end up like me.