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I was reading her thread and found it very familiar. I had to chuckle as just yesterday my exah was quacking about his life and I stupidly engaged. This is what he said that made me laugh:
EXah: If you wouldn't have kicked me out, we could have worked this out somehow.
Me: How would we have worked this out with your drinking out of control.... and your mistress....? Can't work on a marriage with those factors.
Exah: Well, YOU could have helped me!
OMG, I had to laugh. I was supposed to help him with his drinking and his mistress?
EXah: If you wouldn't have kicked me out, we could have worked this out somehow.
Me: How would we have worked this out with your drinking out of control.... and your mistress....? Can't work on a marriage with those factors.
Exah: Well, YOU could have helped me!
OMG, I had to laugh. I was supposed to help him with his drinking and his mistress?
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It is of no wonder at all that many of us go along blaming ourselves for not doing enough, or not doing the right thing, or just doing too much to save a relationship. With the reinforcement we receive from the alcoholics in our lives, it's amazing we can see it any other way.
I find myself laughing out loud sometimes (though I try to leave the room first) when my ABF begins to quack. It is far better than the crying I have done in the past for sure.
Maybe one day he will see that you were helping both of you by the decision.
Peace.
Alice
I find myself laughing out loud sometimes (though I try to leave the room first) when my ABF begins to quack. It is far better than the crying I have done in the past for sure.
Maybe one day he will see that you were helping both of you by the decision.
Peace.
Alice
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