a whole new level
a whole new level
Ah has taken it to a whole new level now- now he has decided to start smoking crack along with his alcoholism- he disappears 3-4 days at a time- ( I guess I can at least be thankful he's not doing it here) we don't here from him for long periods- it is ridiculous. He;s staying i a big city near the town where we live- I don't know exactly where (don't care) but it is with a drug dealer- I know that. Why am I still doing this, I pray every day he gets pulled oer and goes to jail, that is where he needs to be. Our 2 1/2year old daughter is really sick today- he has not been home since Wed. night (that I know of) and I ay end up having to take her to ER- he doesn't even know she's sick- he doesn't give a darn about us- I wish I had the strength to kick him out of our lives.
There's no reason to settle for someone who treats you this way. You and your daughter deserve a life of love and respect.
I'm thinking of you.
-TC
For quite some time, over several years, I failed to see the progression of this disease. The life I lived seemed so normal to me. When things became more and more unmanageable I was forced (thank God) to honestly look at my situation and my choices. I did that 'looking' by going to recovery meetings and coming here to SR.
I believe you can find the strength that lies within you to take care of yourself and your child.
I hope your daughter is feeling better soon.
I believe you can find the strength that lies within you to take care of yourself and your child.
I hope your daughter is feeling better soon.
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Ah has taken it to a whole new level now- now he has decided to start smoking crack along with his alcoholism
Keep posting and please keep reading - if you have time search for some of my recent posts - read what I and especially others have wrote about in those posts. It's scary.
Why am I still doing this
I am sorry you are dealing with this. It is really no way to live. If it is too hard to leave then maybe have the locks changed and his things sent to one of his friends or families house.
You are a strong women.
I hope your LO is feeling better soon.
I hope your little girl is well soon. He is obviously only focusing on himself and his drug(s) of choice. That does not mean that you have to focus on it OR him for that matter.
Keep your eyes on you and your little one and turn over the watching of him to a higher power.
Peace.
Alice
Keep your eyes on you and your little one and turn over the watching of him to a higher power.
Peace.
Alice
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oh sweetheart.
you and your daughter deserve so much more than this from life. I don't imagine this is how you dreamt your life would be when you were younger, nor what you'd want for your child.
you don't have to accept this as your lot in life, it isn't.
thinking of you and your precious girl.
oh sweetheart.
you and your daughter deserve so much more than this from life. I don't imagine this is how you dreamt your life would be when you were younger, nor what you'd want for your child.
you don't have to accept this as your lot in life, it isn't.
thinking of you and your precious girl.
Hi ellima, i send you hugs!!
F. also started considering LSD. How healthy. Anyhow he will do what he wishes.
But I don't have to be there Life is much much better without addictions to substances or other people. I hope you realize that you deserve much more than this.
F. also started considering LSD. How healthy. Anyhow he will do what he wishes.
But I don't have to be there Life is much much better without addictions to substances or other people. I hope you realize that you deserve much more than this.
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deal ellima-
i think you'll benefit from reading this previous thread ...sounds similar to your situation...
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...e-problem.html
i think you'll benefit from reading this previous thread ...sounds similar to your situation...
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...e-problem.html
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Ah has taken it to a whole new level now- now he has decided to start smoking crack along with his alcoholism- he disappears 3-4 days at a time- ( I guess I can at least be thankful he's not doing it here) we don't here from him for long periods- it is ridiculous. He;s staying i a big city near the town where we live- I don't know exactly where (don't care) but it is with a drug dealer- I know that. Why am I still doing this, I pray every day he gets pulled oer and goes to jail, that is where he needs to be. Our 2 1/2year old daughter is really sick today- he has not been home since Wed. night (that I know of) and I ay end up having to take her to ER- he doesn't even know she's sick- he doesn't give a darn about us- I wish I had the strength to kick him out of our lives.
How I wish I could scoop you up and take you away! I want you to know you do have the strength to focus totally on you and your daughter and what you both need---and I can tell you that it's not that man. I continue to pray that my XABF will learn consequences for his actions, and take responsibility for them.
When I was 7 months pregnant my XABF would disappear for days at a time, and show up again like it was no big thing. I am so thankful to my HP that I left him, before our daughter was born. I think that if she had been born, I would have had concrete boots.
My daughter is now three months old, and we are moving ahead in life without him. I genuinely hope you can realize that YOU DESERVE THE BEST (NOT BETTER) and find a way to get him out of your life.
Hugs,
K
sorry you are going thru this....crack addiction is horrible I know because my husband is also a crack addict.
you may want to come over to the friends and family of substance page..........many share the same things that your going thru and theres alot of support there.
Not always sweet gentle words but wisdom none the less
you may want to come over to the friends and family of substance page..........many share the same things that your going thru and theres alot of support there.
Not always sweet gentle words but wisdom none the less
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