another day!
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another day!
Well, I made my bed, I guess I am going to have to sleep in it! I let the girls do all the unwrapping without their dad now we are going on our second day without talking. I guess that is better than yelling and being nasty to one another. I want to just scream!!! I look at him and want to throw up!! I wish I could say " I am done with you and all your crap" I guess that day will come. I hope it is soon. My oldest daughter dropped a bomb on me and told me she is expecting. Of course she is 20, living at home and has a job. I didn't need this on top of all the other things I have going on. I don't want her to go live with him, he is like her dad!!! Can I have one more thing go wrong?
Oh my. Well, little ones are a blessing Sue.
I saw the absolute cutest little seat cushions for kids the other day, and I don't know anyone with a little one to buy them for!!! (as if I had any money, sigh)
That old saying, "God doesn't put more on your plate than you can handle" I believe is true.
Stay strong, sounds like you're taking care of yourself and letting him reap the rewards of his choices, this can only be a good thing.
I saw the absolute cutest little seat cushions for kids the other day, and I don't know anyone with a little one to buy them for!!! (as if I had any money, sigh)
That old saying, "God doesn't put more on your plate than you can handle" I believe is true.
Stay strong, sounds like you're taking care of yourself and letting him reap the rewards of his choices, this can only be a good thing.
I do it to my AH. It drives him absolutely nuts because I'm not doing what he expects his enabler to do; namely the cold shoulder, the injured victim, the angry woman. Heck, mine thinks I'm a b!tch from something I did six years ago. Amazingly funny to me. He can't remember when the last time was he ate or what he ate, but he's hanging onto his resentment like a dog hanging onto an old chewed-up bone.
And he uses crap like that to get a rise out of me. But, guess what? No rise! I let the silent treatment go out the window when I realized I was giving the A back complete responsibility for his addiction by being pleasant.
He owns his own crappy behaviors. And I don't allow those behaviors to dictate mine.
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Do you ever find when you talk nice, they think all is well? That is how it is at my house. I talk nice then he he thinks I am his best friend in all the world. He is now at the point where the only friends he has are at work. They think he is A#1 nice guy, which he is!! Until around 10pm and then he is a jerk. I found that my city has Alanon on Tuesdays and this week I will be going for my first meeting, I am also going to see if they have Alateen for my 12 year old. Maybe things will make sense for her after a few meetings. Thanks for all the support and good advice, I can use all I can get!
Do you ever find when you talk nice, they think all is well? That is how it is at my house. I talk nice then he he thinks I am his best friend in all the world. He is now at the point where the only friends he has are at work. They think he is A#1 nice guy, which he is!! Until around 10pm and then he is a jerk. I found that my city has Alanon on Tuesdays and this week I will be going for my first meeting, I am also going to see if they have Alateen for my 12 year old. Maybe things will make sense for her after a few meetings. Thanks for all the support and good advice, I can use all I can get!
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