What is a qualifier?
 

I see this here sometimes and I'm not sure what it means.

Typically, the person who gets you in the rooms of a 12-step program. xAH was my qualifier, but like someone else just posted, I actually am my own best qualifier - I realized that once I was going for awhile. I went because of the alcoholic, I stayed for myself.

I don't go to alanon but if I did I would qualify as my own qualifier. I wish I could make myself go. I don't know what my problem is. I don't want to go anywhere though.

"I don't want to go anywhere though."
Anywhere at all? Or just not to AlAnon?
I'm glad you come here!
:-)
B

Anywhere at all. My depression sucks. I can barely go to my part time job. All my energy is sapped when i get home. I hate going to the store or to appointments. I don't even want to go hang with friends. Totally different forum topic I know...

yeah, it does suck! I too have depression and have my good days and bad days - less so now that I've been to my doctor and we've tinkered with my meds to help me get through this. Do you think you're just having a bad phase right now or is it something more serious?

Anyway, I'm sending you kind thoughts and hugs!!:ghug3

I have had depression for the past 4 years, but meds and other stuff have eased it a lot. Coming here to SR has also been a God send, and probably done more for me than any other "treatment" I have had.
I used to go to Alanon, but moved house and stopped going. Looked for meetings here and there are 2 a week, same time as church meetings so that stumped me for a bit. Looked online and found Alanon site there.
email to, tranquilityAFG-subscribe******groups.com

Hope this may be of some help to anyone who for whatever reason can't get to a f2f Alanon meeting.

God bless

loner - I certainly can understand.. I too had a difficult doing/going anywhere. When I was home - I wanted to be somewhere else.. when I was somewhere else - I wanted to be home. When I was home, I literally could not do anything.. I do go to alanon, and this was when I first started going. I did get a sponsor, and I was told that whereever I go I take myself with me, and that until I worked on myself and started to like myself..I would have these problems.. I did what she suggested and today I am a happy person, not depressed - I do not take on other peoples feelings, and I can be home alone and happy and content now...

Boy can I relate! I go where I NEED to go - doctors, therapist, pharma, very sparse grocery shopping, food take out, yada, but it’s a major stressor leading up to anything outside those usual and faceless events, even ,the occasional family event which despite dysfunction tend to be rewarding after all (an hour and a half away which makes it harder to motivate) require days of mental prep which can backfire and lead to paralysis by analysis (my favorite condition lol).

Hi, Wook,

Just so you know, this is a VERY old thread from 2008. You might do well to start a thread of your own--you might get more (and more relevant) responses.

Welcome!