3 Phrases
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3 Phrases
that should be eradicated from the english language...
I'm sorry (but i'm going to continue in my behavior)
I promise (that you will never be able to depend on my promises)
I love you but (fill in appropriate excuse)
I'm sorry (but i'm going to continue in my behavior)
I promise (that you will never be able to depend on my promises)
I love you but (fill in appropriate excuse)
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how about phrases that may not be fully eradicated, but really shouldnt be said. aka phrases my A has really hurt me with but are ALMOST funny if they didnt cause my heartbreak.
"well its just that... you're needier than most girls"
and
"it would never work for a million reasons"
youre right. and none of them have to do with your relationship with alcohol or drugs vs. ours
"youre never happy with the decisions i make"
youre right. when youre hurting yourself or me, im generally not.
"im a grown ass man, i can do what i want"
actually sweetheart, youre a grown ass mess. (that was actually my real response)
"well its just that... you're needier than most girls"
and
"it would never work for a million reasons"
youre right. and none of them have to do with your relationship with alcohol or drugs vs. ours
"youre never happy with the decisions i make"
youre right. when youre hurting yourself or me, im generally not.
"im a grown ass man, i can do what i want"
actually sweetheart, youre a grown ass mess. (that was actually my real response)
You know something that was brought up in a meeting I was at recently in regards to the 9th step (making amends) wasn't in saying I was sorry, but rather in acknowledging that I had done wrong, and was there anything that I could do to make it right?
I really like that approach. I just thought I would share that.
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I always like "that's just who I am, I'm not proud of it, but..."
This said after, pick one:
-walking thru the TV room smoking a joint while our 16 year old son was watching TV
-leaving a joint lying on the table
-stumbling into the house and tripping up the stairs in front of our son and friends
-sleeping on the cellar floor,being too drunk to climb the stairs
-etc.,etc,,,,
This said after, pick one:
-walking thru the TV room smoking a joint while our 16 year old son was watching TV
-leaving a joint lying on the table
-stumbling into the house and tripping up the stairs in front of our son and friends
-sleeping on the cellar floor,being too drunk to climb the stairs
-etc.,etc,,,,
Hmmm - for me, actions say these things more than the actual words coming out. I am very wary of people who say these things without backing them up.
I agree that "I'm sorry" is the best way to immediately acknowledge a wrongdoing. Granted, the way it's said, the tone used and actions afterwards kind of create the meaning.
I agree that "I'm sorry" is the best way to immediately acknowledge a wrongdoing. Granted, the way it's said, the tone used and actions afterwards kind of create the meaning.
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Hmmm - for me, actions say these things more than the actual words coming out. I am very wary of people who say these things without backing them up.
I agree that "I'm sorry" is the best way to immediately acknowledge a wrongdoing. Granted, the way it's said, the tone used and actions afterwards kind of create the meaning.
I agree that "I'm sorry" is the best way to immediately acknowledge a wrongdoing. Granted, the way it's said, the tone used and actions afterwards kind of create the meaning.
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Last night my AH husband said "I'm sorry" and I said "you really are!" As in your a sorry excuse for a partner, a father, a human!
I hear:
I'm sorry for drinking away every promise I every made and never kept.
I love you; but not as much as my mistress the bottle. Sorry.
With my AH anything nice is just a meaningless word to help him smooth stuff over so he can continue on his merry self-destructive way.
I hear:
I'm sorry for drinking away every promise I every made and never kept.
I love you; but not as much as my mistress the bottle. Sorry.
With my AH anything nice is just a meaningless word to help him smooth stuff over so he can continue on his merry self-destructive way.
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