Question for Al-Anon Sponsors I have been dating my girlfriend for 3 months. She has been going to Al-Anon meetings for over a year and has a sponsor she really likes. She is working her steps slowly but surely. Is it healthy for her to be in a relationship with me during this process ? I support her completely, I have gone to meetings with her and had good dialogue about her steps. Her walls can be quite high and I think she has a hard time trusting people. I don't want out, I want her to be healthy. |
Welcome, Niedler, glad you're here! Did something specific happen to make you question the relationship? |
My ESH is people are free to do whatever they choose in Al Anon i.e. be single or be in a relationship. Have you thought about joining? |
My sponsor and I talked a lot about relationships. She helped me to examine my motives and my feelings...and if I was healthy enough to be able to contribute to a healthy relationship. There were times that I could, and times that I couldn't |
Originally Posted by Niedler
(Post 1969273)
Is it healthy for her to be in a relationship with me during this process ? I don't want out, I want her to be healthy. It's her choice as to whether or not she makes healthy choices and what "healthy choices" means to her. I wanted XABF to be healthy too - to the point where I was unhealthy. Thing is - not using the tools I learned in recovery from codependence would not get me very far in my recovery. Hiding from life won't get me any closer to who I want to be ;) |
Originally Posted by Niedler
(Post 1969273)
Is it healthy for her to be in a relationship with me during this process? How about the following question: Is it healthy for you to be in a relationship with her during this process?
Originally Posted by Niedler
(Post 1969273)
Her walls can be quite high and I think she has a hard time trusting people. I don't want out, I want her to be healthy. Peace. |
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