HateBooze

I have no oter family, nor does boyfriend the alcoholic.
I am so sad and so depressed. Antidepressants don't get it.

Coping strategies, anyone?

WHY WHY WHY do my feelings never come into play? Is this the man or the habit? Or have just taught him that is ok? HIS feelings and needs are all it is about.

Thank you all....:praying

baileyboop

You don't want to know my coping strategy. It involved lawyers...Seriously.

I would really suggest the some meetings for you and some serious thought into what you want and list ways you can achieve that with ot without your bf. There are some on-line meetings available, but I got more out of the f2f meetings. It personalized it more for me. Find a used bookstore in your area and see if you can pick up some of the books that have been suggested as reading...

Good luck to you..

HateBooze

Thank you; it is appreciated. he more I read here...(sigh)

meanwhile his ex, who is not an alcoholic, is desperate to get him back.
THAT really confuses me.

itisatruth

Hi, when I first found SR I felt like that -- I was sad and lonely almost all the time. Still am sometimes, but overall I feel good about my progress. Lately,I've been so busy, I wish I had more time to myself.

What worked for me: baby steps. Try, even if it's hard, try to make small changes in your life for you.....even if it's just going for a walk or setting time for yourself to do something you like. Get away from what's bothering From there, you can take it further...when you're ready. Go to an alanon meeting, reach out to people at work, spend time here on SR. Take care of yourself. I wish you well.

denny57

(((HateBooze))) I'm sorry you are feeling so lonely and down.

Do you have friends you can reach out to? Have you tried Al Anon or some other support group? I found much comfort in spending time face to face with others who understood what I was going through.

Please keep posting - you are not alone!

HateBooze

We both have no family. I have only one real friend and she has issues facing this stuff. We work together so there goes that. His ex goes to alanon and hates my gutts, so that closes yet another door...

but thank you. thank you all for responding.

nancy:ghug3

denny57

Do you have a car? There are meetings in Loma Linda and Yucaipa.