veruca211

As some of you may have read, I am new to this and have an alcoholic bf who fell of the wagon after 2 months last week, and is in jail for a DUI. Ive been wavering back and forth on what to do, because I know he is a good person and because of ho much we love eachother... madly! Well, after being on SR and reading a lot, I have decided that I cant help him and that Im losing more and more of myself with each day that passes because of his all consuming addiction and neediness. It is really, really hard but Ive come up with a plan on paper of the things I want/ need to incorporate into my life to better focus back on me and be the best me I can be, ie- alanon, read more, exercise more, sleep better, etc. He called today from jail and I told him I think he doesnt need to focus on a girlfriend right now, he needs to want to get sober for himself and figure what it is he wants out of life- besides me. He was clearly upset, but I stayed strong and kept it short. I just know I need to love myself first and I really dont want to pick a harder road to go down when life is hard enough as it is! Thanks to everyone the past few days, I dont think I could have done this alone!
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ToughChoices

Good for you, Veruca!

Sometimes I wish love were enough. I had that same "madly" thing going on, and all it got me were a few months of banging my head against the wall!
Time to fall madly in love with Veruca!

It's hard to take the first step - you're well on your way!
Keep on posting.

-TC

Ago

good on ya kid, hang in there and tell us how everything turns out

TooMuch4TooLong

Good girl!

TTOSBT

Way to go Veronica!!
That is REALLY great! Woohoo!

veruca211

I owe it all to you guys! you gave me the knowledge and strength to see what the right thing to do is! Thanks guys, keep ya posted!!!

veryrestless722

Barbara52

Jadmack25

You really are wonderful. Thanks for being a light so many of us need to do what we need to for US.