Courage to change
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Courage to change
All,
I don't know if its because I'm in pain (due to injury) today, but I'm having a lot of fear, doubt and uncertainty today. I'm having real difficulty in letting go of what's going on in my life with the AW. I find myself wanting to give her more and more chances, and excusing more and more behavior, which really just aggravates me.
The mental symptoms are coming on strong, as I'm having nightmares about the split up to come.
How did all of you deal with the stress? Did you get nervous, and scared, and have trouble pulling the trigger?
Redd
I don't know if its because I'm in pain (due to injury) today, but I'm having a lot of fear, doubt and uncertainty today. I'm having real difficulty in letting go of what's going on in my life with the AW. I find myself wanting to give her more and more chances, and excusing more and more behavior, which really just aggravates me.
The mental symptoms are coming on strong, as I'm having nightmares about the split up to come.
How did all of you deal with the stress? Did you get nervous, and scared, and have trouble pulling the trigger?
Redd
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What helped me, and what still helps me today, is to stay in the present. Awfulizing about the future does nothing to change it and causes major stress. Making a choice can seem more difficult than not making a choice, but the truth is, both are choices.
I've been perusing some of the older threads that helped me along the way today. I will go bump up one that was particularly helpful to me in regards to decision making.
L
I've been perusing some of the older threads that helped me along the way today. I will go bump up one that was particularly helpful to me in regards to decision making.
L
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I can feel your pain man. I think it can be best discribed as withdrawls. I'm dealing with the same thing and you will have your good days and your bad days. Just try to remain strong and move forward one step at a time. Keep reminding yourself that YOU desreve better.
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That was a great thread that L bumped up!
Sorry that you are going through this right now-
It was very stressful for me when I kicked my XABF out of my home...
I did not know how to make "right choices" although I knew inside I was
making "wrong choices" I guess it was the denial kicking in....
I kept saying I will give him one more chance blah blah blah if he does
this then we will be fine...excuses excuses which all lead into physical
abuse along with intense verbal abuse (More than I already was getting)..
I decided one day to listen to my gut which was telling me the "right choice" for
myself and that was to move on-
It is hard and when we have had enough is when we will make the right choice for
ourselves. I had many people tell me what they thought was the right choice however
it was up to me!
I wish you the best-Please read the thread L bumped it is very informative!
Be gentle with yourself
Baby steps.....breathe you will be in a better place soon!
Sorry that you are going through this right now-
It was very stressful for me when I kicked my XABF out of my home...
I did not know how to make "right choices" although I knew inside I was
making "wrong choices" I guess it was the denial kicking in....
I kept saying I will give him one more chance blah blah blah if he does
this then we will be fine...excuses excuses which all lead into physical
abuse along with intense verbal abuse (More than I already was getting)..
I decided one day to listen to my gut which was telling me the "right choice" for
myself and that was to move on-
It is hard and when we have had enough is when we will make the right choice for
ourselves. I had many people tell me what they thought was the right choice however
it was up to me!
I wish you the best-Please read the thread L bumped it is very informative!
Be gentle with yourself
Baby steps.....breathe you will be in a better place soon!
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