newenglandgirl

Hello dearest SR friends!

I haven't visited in a while now, but what I learned here, no doubt, changed my life. Strong, good stuff here. I am so grateful for the wisdom you all shared with me. I hope this message finds you all well and moving forward.

A friend recently send me this Q&A article and it really spoke to me...I wanted to share it with you.

My husband's an alcoholic but doesn't think he has a problem, a Since You Asked column by Cary Tennis | Salon Life

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ToughChoices

I am a regular reader of salon.com and Cary Tennis's advice column.

The last time my AH stayed out all night drinking, I sat at home, my son tucked into bed, and opened my computer to find ..... this article.

My husband's an alcoholic but doesn't think he has a problem, a Since You Asked column by Cary Tennis | Salon Life

I honestly felt like it was a sign from God.

I decided right then and there that I was finished dealing with the insanity of living with alcoholism.

I move out on Thursday.

blessed4x

Wow....that was an AHA moment. The line that got me the most:

"Who in their right mind would choose to stay in such a situation?" Ouch, I have a couple friends telling me the same thing, but to hear it from a total stranger, and the situation in question is so similar. Thank you for posting this.

Bernadette

It's your own fate that you need to worry about now.

That's what I hear over and over here at SR and at AlAnon too. I believe it!

Thanks for this---
B.

sojourner

wow!

Alcoholics get left. Everything in that paragraph went deep into my soul - it's so, so true..... AS was here yesterday saying we should go bowling - i just politely said "sure" but later thought i was not going to extend an invitation further - it's just not worth it!!!

Thanks for sharing - i printed that one up for my folder...

itisatruth

"Meanwhile, don't worry about him. I don't mean you won't have feelings about him. But know that alcoholics often prove to have miraculous resilience and enviable luck. They are tougher than they look. It's your own fate that you need to worry about now."

A few years ago, I may have replied to this part with "But he needs me." I know I am making progress because now I am making myself a priority. It feels good, yet I'm not all the way there.

"Who in their right mind would choose to stay in such a situation? "

Me apparently. Wow, harsh. Maybe I'm not really in my right "mind" and I'm sicker than I thought.

Thanks for sharing this article, definitely thought provoking.