Stick to your guns!
Yield beautiful changes
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Join Date: Feb 2008
Location: A home filled with love
Posts: 1,698
Stick to your guns!
I did it.
I told him that I wanted to separate.
I told him my plan.
He threatened and accused and terrified me with talk of keeping our son.
He told me that I would have to leave - there was no way in h*ll that he was going anywhere.
I spent the night crying, shaking, and vomiting. But I didn't back down.
I spoke to a lawyer. She assured me that I had nothing to worry about regarding custody of my son, but that if I wanted to live apart from him and he wouldn't leave, then I would have to.
I found a little 2 bedroom house with oak floors and a fenced yard. It's beautiful - built in 1930 and right across from a lovely park.
I told my AH that I had spoken with the attorney and arranged the rental house.
Guess what?!!!
He completely broke down. He won't fight me for custody. We don't have to have some ugly scene! He wept and apologized and said he never thought I'd go through with it. He even said I could stay in the house (although I'm kinda excited about moving now)!)
He thought I was all talk.
He was wrong.
This whole process is so much less daunting now that AH has put the "tough guy" act on hold and behaved rationally.
Thank God.
Things are looking up today!
-TC
I told him that I wanted to separate.
I told him my plan.
He threatened and accused and terrified me with talk of keeping our son.
He told me that I would have to leave - there was no way in h*ll that he was going anywhere.
I spent the night crying, shaking, and vomiting. But I didn't back down.
I spoke to a lawyer. She assured me that I had nothing to worry about regarding custody of my son, but that if I wanted to live apart from him and he wouldn't leave, then I would have to.
I found a little 2 bedroom house with oak floors and a fenced yard. It's beautiful - built in 1930 and right across from a lovely park.
I told my AH that I had spoken with the attorney and arranged the rental house.
Guess what?!!!
He completely broke down. He won't fight me for custody. We don't have to have some ugly scene! He wept and apologized and said he never thought I'd go through with it. He even said I could stay in the house (although I'm kinda excited about moving now)!)
He thought I was all talk.
He was wrong.
This whole process is so much less daunting now that AH has put the "tough guy" act on hold and behaved rationally.
Thank God.
Things are looking up today!
-TC
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Join Date: Jan 2006
Location: Newport, RI
Posts: 242
The house with the oak floors sounds great! That he is so remorseful and nice now should not change too much though. I would stick with your plan and carry it through... this is unless you can get him to agree that he will move out and respect your space.
Awesome News! I often wonder if mine would do the same thing if he realized I wasn't all talk??
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Join Date: Jul 2008
Location: London
Posts: 219
The new place sounds a good idea, in agreement with previous poster, fresh start and all that.
Why do men always threaten us with taking our children away? My exh (not an a) did it and my recent exa is doing it now, they're not even his kids!!!!! Keeps threatening me with social services, bloody silly arse
Why do men always threaten us with taking our children away? My exh (not an a) did it and my recent exa is doing it now, they're not even his kids!!!!! Keeps threatening me with social services, bloody silly arse
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Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: Boston
Posts: 2,936
Wow TC! It's all happening!
I found a little 2 bedroom house with oak floors and a fenced yard. It's beautiful - built in 1930 and right across from a lovely park.
With so few words you've described what sounds like paradise!!!
Keep on keepin' on!
Peace and (((hugs)))
B.
I found a little 2 bedroom house with oak floors and a fenced yard. It's beautiful - built in 1930 and right across from a lovely park.
With so few words you've described what sounds like paradise!!!
Keep on keepin' on!
Peace and (((hugs)))
B.
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Join Date: Dec 2006
Location: Stumbling toward happiness
Posts: 4,706
Awesome! When I moved out I found the perfect place too!!! Isn't that weird and cool? All of a sudden, this oak-floored apartment in a turn-of-the-century building with its own fireplace, sunroom, porch swing, big shady trees.....and affordable. It was a few years ago, but I still miss it.
HP looks out for us, I guess.
Way to stick to your guns, TC!
HP looks out for us, I guess.
Way to stick to your guns, TC!
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Join Date: Jan 2003
Location: Georgia
Posts: 341
It sounds like a wonderful place to live. I'm sure you can make it a wonderful, peaceful HOME. It's hard to call a place home when there is too much turmoil. I'm glad you found a place to call your own.
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Join Date: Aug 2008
Location: California
Posts: 31
Good for you! That's is so fantastic.
Hopefully he can now realize what the important things in life are and start to make a change.
In the mean time, best of luck and wishes for a bright and better future for you and your son.
Way to go girl!
Hopefully he can now realize what the important things in life are and start to make a change.
In the mean time, best of luck and wishes for a bright and better future for you and your son.
Way to go girl!
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