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Well Mon 8/18/08 the divorce was final.
She ran my custom built home, that I built with my own 2 hands into
foreclosure, ran us into bankruptcy, and literaly stold my Harley.
she signed off on my pension, $200.00 more a month in my pocket.
For the life in me I don't know why any man should ever get married,
unless their are kids involved. I am now going to sing from the roof tops
against marriage, it's a cruel joke created by some priest some where.
women don't want a man, they want a trained pony. all I wanted was to make her happy, and the marriage to last. NEVER EVER AGAIN.
IF MARRIAGE LISENCE COST AS MUCH, AS A DIVORCE. THERE WOULD BE NONE. Sorry gals but one of your sisters, has created another bitter man.
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I'm so sorry that happened to you. Not all women are that way, just like all men aren't a$$holes. I do agree with you in that I won't ever marry again. I do much better on my own. I hope you get over your bitterness.

Sorry that your experience has made you bitter.

I WON'T ALLOW THIS TO RUIN MY LIFE, BUT IT HAS AND WILL CHANGE
THE REST OF IT. thank you barb. I really wish this hadn't happened.
but se la vie life goes on, it was amazing how she showed such little remorse
and concerne, and I did remind her that, what goes around, comes around.
I don't remember ever being that evil, but maybe??

thank you Suki

I don't think irresponsibility controls one sex over the other. I'm also sorry that you are bitter. I'm not sure how you can place all the blame on your ex. Was your name on the note for the house as well as hers? Was your name on your Harley? When the bills weren't getting paid, was she the only one making all the decisions?

You are right, you do need to turn the page and keep your eyes open next time. If being married to you means your wife makes or destroys you in more ways than one, not getting married again is probably a good idea. It takes two, remember that.

respektingme,
YOUR RIGHT it takes two, the marriage and all the STUFF were all under her controll.
when I started to get concerned and asked questions I WAS TOLD, DON'T WORRY I HAVE IT UNDER CONTROLL. You had to be there to see it, when I finally woke up
it was to late, so off to the lawyer I went. She has a high stakes gambling problem.
and doesn't need a casino to play. a MLM scheme is what did it, I will gladly tell you more in a PM, there are many more ways in addiction than drugs, A recovering person needs to know this, as to be carefull about what you get involved in.

takes two / takes two

(((((gees)))))

I hope your pain and anger heal and also that if you don't ever get married that you don't give up on love!

Peace,

Lily xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Pema Chodron has a great book called When Things Fall Apart. Maybe that would help you heal. She also wrote a book called The Places That Scare You and one of the first things she says is "don't let the world harden your heart." Good luck.

I hope you don't decide all women are like your addicted wife. I can understand how the bitterness comes about but an addict is not typical of their gender, regardless of that gender. Try to remember that bitterness going forward can only harm you. Its a rather toxic emotion to hold on to.

Barb your right about toxic,
and letting her have this power of anxt over me,
is irratating too. I'm going to do some prayers and do some diversions
of some sort. and work through this junk. I really want to get on the other side of it, this is why I'm here with wisdom. and not stuffing it.
You and all the people here are how I grow, my HP works through my recovering freinds, here and in my meetings.

God bless you all. and thanks for putting up with me.

:Val004:

the last relationship, I was in changed my life... Now I'm finding how peaceful, calm, serene, blissful, happy ~ life can get.

I take nothing for granted. I now have only good days or great days.

I hate addictions. I really never grew up knowing anyone who had them. Sucks to see people I know now hurt by them. Wish everyone could just be happy with moderation. Sadly, that just isn't the case much of the time.

feeling all this anger and bitterness and resentment is probably the first step on the road to freedom and serenity. vomit it all out for awhile. then you'll look back and see hpw perfectly things worked out for you....as you are living an honest and peaceful and LOVING life. vomit, but recover. you'll do great, gees. you'll see.

Glad you're free, Gees.

You know, I go to school with a lot of women who truly hate men "for all the horrible things they do." They seem to spend half their life bad-mouthing 50% of the human population because it's so evil.

Makes about as much sense as your view of marriage. Yours didn't work, and you won't do it again. That's all cool. But lots of them work just fine and they come out much better in the end.

Don't rule out love if it comes your way again -- just wanna make sure it's the right somebody this time. Sounds like this one wasn't a very good fit, to put it lightly. Maybe someone who has their own house, money, and harley this time?