friend

well ok my best friend is way under 13, and she has a drinking problem, she needs to stop, but she cant, i dont think she even wants to, but i want her to, and i have lost family to drinking, i dont no what to do 4 her, i cant tell her parents, thats her biggest fear, but i cant let her die of this, i need to no what to do,im trying to support her, but she cant let her family no about her problem, so no AA 4 her, but i need to no what to do, like im confused and so is she, she dosnt even no that im talking to other people about this, but i dont no what to do,

midknight

Hmmmm I rather new to all this but it's a FACT that she needs treatment. For her (a minor) to get treatment her parents will have to know. So I would advise you go to her parents! There's nothing no one can do on thier own, this is bigger than the both of you. By talking to her parents you give her a chance to get sober if she chooses to take it.
I'm about to confront my fiance with her alcoholism via an intervention. It could all blow up in my face and she may very well hate me forever but then I can walk away knowing I gave her the chance. Be a good friend and get her the help she needs! It's up to her to take it. Also you might want to look through the Power Posts in the al-anon forum. You're agreat friend to want to help but you need to remain a little detatched. Read the power posts and it will make sense.

My 2 cents,

Midknight

Debbie

Hi friend

I know you are great friend so be trying to seek help for your friend. I know it you feel like it would be betraying your friendship to tell her parents but since she is a minor it would probably be the best thing you could do for your friend. I would think your friend will thank you for it eventually.

As midknight mentioned, read the power posts. And you might want to check out alateen for yourself.

http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/

Good luck and keep coming back. Let us know how things are going.

Many hugs,
Debbie