Courage to Change ~ July 21 ~ Let Go and Let God
 

Courage to Change ODAT in Al-Anon II 7/21

“The people I love won’t take care of themselves, so I have to do it. How will they survive unless I …?” This was my thinking when I came to Al-Anon, my excuse for interfering in everyone’s business. My needs seemed so unimportant compared to the constant crises all around me. Al-Anon told me that I had other options, one of which was to let go and let God.

When I think of letting go I remind myself that there is a natural order to life – a chain of events that a Higher Power has in mind. When I let go of a situation, I allow life to unfold according to that plan. I open my mind and let other ways of thinking or behaving enter in. When I let go of another person, I am affirming their right to live their own life, to make their own choices, and to grow as they experience the results of their actions. A Higher Power exists for others, as well. My obsessive interference disrupts not only my connection with them but my connection with my own spiritual self.

Today’s Reminder

I am my top priority. By keeping the focus on myself, I let go of other people’s problems and can better cope with my own. What can I do for myself today?

“I will remind myself…that I am powerless over anyone else, that I can live no life but my own. Changing myself for the better is the only way I can find peace and serenity.”

The Dilemma of the Alcoholic Marriage

KAPOW !!! :e136:

This reading has always hit me right upside the head. It's my recovery story in a nutshell... I acted like I was the Supreme Queen of the Universe and I of course knew what was right for everyone else. I cleaned up their messes, I told them what to do, I put everyone else's needs above my own. And I was miserable, exhausted, frightened, and alone.

What an incredible lesson to learn - I am not in charge of anyone else's life but my own. I need to allow others to make their own choices, and allow them the joy and dignity of experiencing their own consequences.

And I need to stay OUT of the way so I'm not blocking their HP from communications.

Let Go and Let God. Today, I think I will.

I just got a very real, wonderful lesson in the value of letting go and letting God! I sincerely try to leave everything in God's hands and to trust in Him but sometimes I get a little impatient when His will doesn't fit my timetable. So......

I was in the process of responding about a current dilemma I am in concerning xAH and the closing on our house. xAH must be out no later than 8/5 and has done nothing to make this take place. Because it could cause the sale to fall through I was wondering just how I should step in and do something (unknown what kind of something) to protect my interests.

As I was typing, seriously I was in the act of typing, my real estate agent (who is also a friend) called with a plan that does not involve me. She has talked to xAH's pastor about the situation, pastor has gotten together a team of folks to help xAH pack and move his stuff and xAH has accepted their help! Problem solved!

What a perfect reminder that letting go and letting God is that path I should always choose. Thank you God for yet again loving me and showing me You have my best interests in your plan.

Barbara,

Don't you just LOVE it when your HP does something like that? It's confirmation to me that if I just let go and let God, His answer or plan is usually waaaaaaay better than anything I could ever have imagined.

Hugs

Cats

CP, it never fails to fill me with joy and peace when I see or feel God acting in my life! I have chills and goosebumps. I am so very grateful to be able to experience this wonder.

I am definately loads and loads better at letting other adults solve their own problems, take their own responsibilities etc.

I am most often struck with the realisation that I do not extend the same amount of curtousy toward my daughter. Perhaps it is because she is only 10yrs that I go into automatic mode and caretake for her, do things for her she can do her self. I find myself doing it often and have to stop, apologise and let her finish a task I took over.

I have definately found it easier to let go and stop fixing adults!

Lily xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx