I let her leave...

Old 07-21-2008, 07:50 PM
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It's kind of like recovery all over again, isn't it?
Bingo! That's it exactly. Welcome to the world of codependency recovery. You'll do fine. {hugs}
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Old 07-25-2008, 10:37 AM
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Just a little update...

I'm not returning her phone calls. I know that the moment I speak with her I will fold. Last night she called ( and left a message on the machine) to ask why I didn't love her anymore. And "what's up with that?". I wrote her a quick email today just saying that I do care for her just not the way she wants me to. And that she's the one who said the relationship was over.

I think that was the wrong thing to do. I think I'm playing into her game and now I'm anticipating a ill-mannered response from her.
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Old 07-25-2008, 10:58 AM
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Progress not perfection Ray, let it pass and keep moving forward. I think you have been handling everything great!

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Old 07-25-2008, 01:32 PM
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Progress not perfection....

Thanks for the reminder, Lily.
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Old 07-25-2008, 10:27 PM
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I am currently in full blown no contact mode with my AH. (Love how AH can stand for so many things!) We have been in break up, make up mode for 19 years. I've even changed my phone number. That was a tough decision to make because now I have to change it in so many places, but the peace from not living with the insanity will be worth it.

Something's gotta change, and this time it will be me.

Not engaging is hard work when we're used to being on overload. I will say, however, that the fog in my mind is clearing.

Wishing you clarity, strength and peace!
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