I Did It!
 

I am so proud of myself, I filed for divorce! Over the last several months of coming here and doing some real soul searching, I was finally able to take the leap and I am so glad that I have. It is only the beginning for me now of getting out of this tangled web. So, I told him last night, I met him right after work, so that he would not be loaded. He was shocked, even though I told him that this had been coming, he still did not believe it. I asked him that we try to work together to get this resolved as soon as possible, he says "resolved as in over"?? Uhmmmm.....yes!

He drove away because he was getting upset, then when he got home, he was ticked off. He says he is going to talk to a attorney and do what is best for him and his daughter..(our 9 yr old) I said the best thing to do for your daughter is to get yourself into a treatment program!

We are asking for sole custody, supervised visitation (unless he gets treatment), child support, maintenance, and that he needs to leave the house. In our conversation not once did he take any responsibility...in fact later on in the night he was is the garage and I went out there to put some stuff in the recycle bin and caught him taking a swig out of the bottle he keeps in his car....nice, just really shows me that I AM doing the right thing, he's on his own now.

I found a new mantra too..."Out of this experience, only good will come"..I am working every day on changing my thoughts to good positive strong ones that will bring good, not the old dragged down ones that kept me where I was!! YIPPPEEEEE!!

Good for you. I know how hard reaching that decision was, and now you are on your way to a healthy and vibrant new life.

:You_Rock_

stillsearching
It sounds like you are doing what you need to do for you and your daughter. Good for you! Today REALLY IS the first day of the rest of your life! You're going to hit some bumps in the road over the next few months but with your positive attitude, you can overcome anything!
gentle hugs

Wow. You are so strong! Congratulations on looking for a better life for you and your daughter. Its a scary step but you did it! :You_Rock_

You deserve to be proud of yourself!

:bbk:

Wow! Great job! We will all be here for you in the coming steps to fully regain life for yourself and your daughter.:Val004:

It may be a bit tough until you get it all finalized but how exciting and what an adventure, the rest of your life with you in the driving seat.

Best of luck to you :ghug3