Now STBXAH is in a rush for the divorce
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Now STBXAH is in a rush for the divorce
My divorce can go forward. The mortgage company agreed to push back foreclosure another 60 days so STBXAH won't be filing for bankrupcy thereby putting the divorce on hold. So I've hired an attorney to walk it thru the courts, the settlement agreement is signed and notarized. It should be final within a few weeks.
Now STBXAH is emailing me wanting to know why he hasn't gotten the paperwork yet, why its taking so long, blah, blah, blah. I guess his cybergirlfriend and he are getting anxious to marry even though they haven't even set eyes on each other yet. I told him if I wasn't moving fast enough for him he was welcome to fork out the money himself to hire an attorney to work faster. That shut him up since of course he doesn't have any money 'cause he still doesn't have a freakin' job.
But I'm happy to pay the few hundred this will take. It will be a wonderful weight off my shoulders to get the legal stuff done.
Now STBXAH is emailing me wanting to know why he hasn't gotten the paperwork yet, why its taking so long, blah, blah, blah. I guess his cybergirlfriend and he are getting anxious to marry even though they haven't even set eyes on each other yet. I told him if I wasn't moving fast enough for him he was welcome to fork out the money himself to hire an attorney to work faster. That shut him up since of course he doesn't have any money 'cause he still doesn't have a freakin' job.
But I'm happy to pay the few hundred this will take. It will be a wonderful weight off my shoulders to get the legal stuff done.
My first reaction to reading this was i can't even believe he's already pursing another marriage or whatever it may be but then i came back to reality and remembered what and who we are all dealing with and what brought us here in the first place!
Good for you for staying so strong through all of this. I'm sure you are so glad that this is almost behind you.
p.s. how's the new car treating you
Good for you for staying so strong through all of this. I'm sure you are so glad that this is almost behind you.
p.s. how's the new car treating you
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Barb ...Breathe it is almost over that is great news! Keep moving forward! When this is all done the peace will surround you even more!
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Thanks to all of you for your support and help getting me to this point. I feel great. Life is good. Dealing with STBXAH has become a small necessary annoyance, one that does not affect me in any appreciable way. I still pray he admits to his addiction and moves toward recovery. But he no longer affects me.
Oh I and really like my car.
Oh I and really like my car.
Barb,
It is just completely bizarre, but not unbelievable as far as living in the addict world gets. I am so happy for you that you are able to look at this as too weird and something you want no part of, and that you are doing so great. It is awesome to witness. Thank you for being here
It is just completely bizarre, but not unbelievable as far as living in the addict world gets. I am so happy for you that you are able to look at this as too weird and something you want no part of, and that you are doing so great. It is awesome to witness. Thank you for being here
Thank goodness this is FINALLY ending for you, barb. It's amazing, but as soon as they get a new victim in their sights, they are focused only on that. I'm glad the foreclosure has been postponed too.
Sending prayers and good thoughts your way, hon!
Sending prayers and good thoughts your way, hon!
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It must be a huge relief to finally see progress and the light at the end of the tunnel! I'm in the process of leaving my AH, but he keeps stalling and doing everything he can to avoid signing the separation agreement. I am trying hard not to give in to all of his demands - you would think he was the victim here! (HA!) I hope he gets motivated like yours did (regardless of the source of that motivation - I just don't want to be here anymore - I want OUT!).
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