update...I didn't meet him.
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update...I didn't meet him.
Update to "He called...now what?"
He called this morning wanting to see him, so I suggested meeting him at a restaurant for lunch. He said no, just come over. I told him I couldn't go backward and if that's all he wanted I can't do it. I couldn't just see him and then not hear from him and just be on call when it was convenient for him.
I had hoped things were different now after 2 years and he said you should have thought about that before you left. He still blames me for the end of everything. He said he learned his lesson last time and won't go there again.
Guess just hooking up with me is ok, though. Whatever. I'm worth more than that. I've learned my lesson, too.
Thanks for all of the support! I'm glad I posted first before acting on a weak feeling.
I'm in good spirits after the phone call. I did the next right thing and am proud of myself. I don't feel I went backwards. I actually feel a sense of peace and comfort knowing I'm taking care of myself.
He called this morning wanting to see him, so I suggested meeting him at a restaurant for lunch. He said no, just come over. I told him I couldn't go backward and if that's all he wanted I can't do it. I couldn't just see him and then not hear from him and just be on call when it was convenient for him.
I had hoped things were different now after 2 years and he said you should have thought about that before you left. He still blames me for the end of everything. He said he learned his lesson last time and won't go there again.
Guess just hooking up with me is ok, though. Whatever. I'm worth more than that. I've learned my lesson, too.
Thanks for all of the support! I'm glad I posted first before acting on a weak feeling.
I'm in good spirits after the phone call. I did the next right thing and am proud of myself. I don't feel I went backwards. I actually feel a sense of peace and comfort knowing I'm taking care of myself.
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You're right, you're worth a lot more then that!! You made the right choice and I totally commend you for your strength!!
Xabf still says this type of thing. Thank you for posting this, as I assume later on down the road he will still continue to blame me for everything. Funny how most A's say the same thing.
Originally Posted by aztchr 
he said you should have thought about that before you left. He still blames me for the end of everything.
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I love when we can finally hear the quacking for what it is:
QUACK QUACK QUACK your fault
QUACK QUACK QUACK poor me
QUACK QUACK QUACK I'm all alone
It was a good feeling for me to get past that and realize that all he was was uncomfortable because I wasn't jumping thru his hoops anymore.
Have a wonderful day and celebrate your moments of clarity~
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QUACK QUACK QUACK your fault
QUACK QUACK QUACK poor me
QUACK QUACK QUACK I'm all alone
It was a good feeling for me to get past that and realize that all he was was uncomfortable because I wasn't jumping thru his hoops anymore.
Have a wonderful day and celebrate your moments of clarity~
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Originally Posted by aztchr
I'm in good spirits after the phone call. I did the next right thing and am proud of myself. I don't feel I went backwards. I actually feel a sense of peace and comfort knowing I'm taking care of myself.
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