aztchr

Tonight my meeting topic was a slogan...Live and Let Live.
After listening to all of the shares, my feelings have resurfaced. I'm living my normal day to day activities, but not truly living my best life. The one that makes me happy and content.

I'm not letting myself because I'm stuck in grief from the past and loss.
I still feel guilty about my decision to leave my exabf. It still feels like a betrayal to be truly happy. Is this really fear? I don't know.

Spiritual Seeker

Stop standing in your own way. There is a very old song:
" C'mon C'mon Get Happy "
Get out of the past, and live in the NOW.
Isn't it time to move on, you can.

Barbara52

I don't know either but you might want to dig deeper into why your happy would be a betrayal of someone else. What are the underlying feelings or issues that lead you to think in this manner?

hopeangel

very insightful barbara, i really needed your post.

yes hon, get out of your own way. this coming from someone who has a tendency to sabatage her own happiness too. allow yourself the freedom to be happy.

FormerDoormat

So what would make you happy and content?

cmc

Many years ago I could not come up with an answer to that question because I was so focused on others' needs and wants. My reaction to a loved one's addiction was to lose myself.

In recovery, I am able to find what does make me happy and continue to work on that. It's worth it.

aztchr

Not sure, yet. Probably many things I can't control.

Kindeyes

Recognizing that you are stuck in past grief is a GREAT step in rectifying it! Good for you for acknowledging it! Now.......what to do about it? Keep working your program. I find that yoga is a great release for me. Meditation. It keeps me centered.

gentle hugs