Does anyone see the camera???
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Does anyone see the camera???
I'm 100% convinced that I'm on a long, cruel episode of Candid Camera - there's no way all this could really be happening at once. If any of you are watching this sadistic show, puh-lease - change the channel! No viewers means they won't have to keep this show on any longer.
Here's the script so far...
DIVORCE
AW was fighting ugly, deciding to get downright mean. She wants to get her stuff from the house in bits and pieces - each time bringing a police escort. I'm a business owner in a fairly small town and, much more importantly, a Christian man trying to live a life of example. My lawayer finally stepped in and told her lawyer that we wouldn't play games any longer. She can come get everything on Saturday - he told me to sit it in the driveway so she didn't even have to come in the house. For anyone who hasn't been through this, it's very hard to motivate yourself to pack half your life in boxes and sit it in the driveway. I filed a no fault divorce and she countered with an at-fault for 'cruel treatment'. I sent my lawyer about 100 email exchanges between us and after reading them he said it seemed like she liked to provoke - bingo. She's also suing for me to pay her fees, that ties into the next 2 script bits.
TAXES
I started a business in 2007 with my old boss as my partner. I asked him many times about taxes and he told me "don't worry about it, just focus on sales" and then referred me to his CPA. After an evaluation in November I was told that we'd have a loss and therefore 'not a taxable situation'... yeah, right. I called the CPA several times through Nov, Dec and Jan and could not get him on the phone. AND, I'd told my wife we'd get a big refund - so she's been hounding me for that. Fast forward to last week and I get a call from the CPA finally - if we file joint - We owe $12,500 in taxes. However - if she files separately she'll get a $2,500 refund and my tax skyrockets to $17,800 due - no guesswork in what happened here. That leads into the next piece of this show...
FINANCES
I'm broke... credit cards are maxed, I've got 2 mortgages on the house, I'm $20 overdrawn in my checking account and $2.50 overdrawn in my savings - yep, I'm overdrawn in my savings account. My business account has $30 in it. I had to extend my mortgage 2 months, at least they let me do that, however the notice of the extension went to AW's new residence - she sure was thrilled to see that since she was worried I couldn't pay for the house anyhow, there's some leverage for her. I need about $25,000.00 just to cover what I need right now - bankruptcy is banging at my door.
BUSINESS
Business has been slow since November of last year. It's starting to pick up some but still a ways out on profit. Because of my financial sitatuation I'm not able to get a loan for the business. So, I had to sign over most of my ownership to my partner in order to get some cash in to run the business. On a positive note - you can't get blood from a stone, so the STBX can sue all she wants - if she gets half of what I'm worth then she'll owe me about $15,000.00.
FAITH
Best for last. I'm a Christian, I love God passionately. I know His presence is with me but I just feel like right now he's just on the couch watching the show with everyone else. In desperation I cried out to him and just asked "Where are you???". I kind of feel like Job, however (as of today) I'm boil-free. I don't doubt God in the least, I know I'll get through this, I just wish I saw more of what I needed to see in this.
So there's the synopsis of The Show. The only thing not included in this story that's critical to the success of any trashy show is... sex. So far the script is totally devoid of sex from what I see in the present as well as near future episodes... :-)
So, please, watch Discovery Channel or something else... I'm ready for this show to be cancelled......
Here's the script so far...
DIVORCE
AW was fighting ugly, deciding to get downright mean. She wants to get her stuff from the house in bits and pieces - each time bringing a police escort. I'm a business owner in a fairly small town and, much more importantly, a Christian man trying to live a life of example. My lawayer finally stepped in and told her lawyer that we wouldn't play games any longer. She can come get everything on Saturday - he told me to sit it in the driveway so she didn't even have to come in the house. For anyone who hasn't been through this, it's very hard to motivate yourself to pack half your life in boxes and sit it in the driveway. I filed a no fault divorce and she countered with an at-fault for 'cruel treatment'. I sent my lawyer about 100 email exchanges between us and after reading them he said it seemed like she liked to provoke - bingo. She's also suing for me to pay her fees, that ties into the next 2 script bits.
TAXES
I started a business in 2007 with my old boss as my partner. I asked him many times about taxes and he told me "don't worry about it, just focus on sales" and then referred me to his CPA. After an evaluation in November I was told that we'd have a loss and therefore 'not a taxable situation'... yeah, right. I called the CPA several times through Nov, Dec and Jan and could not get him on the phone. AND, I'd told my wife we'd get a big refund - so she's been hounding me for that. Fast forward to last week and I get a call from the CPA finally - if we file joint - We owe $12,500 in taxes. However - if she files separately she'll get a $2,500 refund and my tax skyrockets to $17,800 due - no guesswork in what happened here. That leads into the next piece of this show...
FINANCES
I'm broke... credit cards are maxed, I've got 2 mortgages on the house, I'm $20 overdrawn in my checking account and $2.50 overdrawn in my savings - yep, I'm overdrawn in my savings account. My business account has $30 in it. I had to extend my mortgage 2 months, at least they let me do that, however the notice of the extension went to AW's new residence - she sure was thrilled to see that since she was worried I couldn't pay for the house anyhow, there's some leverage for her. I need about $25,000.00 just to cover what I need right now - bankruptcy is banging at my door.
BUSINESS
Business has been slow since November of last year. It's starting to pick up some but still a ways out on profit. Because of my financial sitatuation I'm not able to get a loan for the business. So, I had to sign over most of my ownership to my partner in order to get some cash in to run the business. On a positive note - you can't get blood from a stone, so the STBX can sue all she wants - if she gets half of what I'm worth then she'll owe me about $15,000.00.
FAITH
Best for last. I'm a Christian, I love God passionately. I know His presence is with me but I just feel like right now he's just on the couch watching the show with everyone else. In desperation I cried out to him and just asked "Where are you???". I kind of feel like Job, however (as of today) I'm boil-free. I don't doubt God in the least, I know I'll get through this, I just wish I saw more of what I needed to see in this.
So there's the synopsis of The Show. The only thing not included in this story that's critical to the success of any trashy show is... sex. So far the script is totally devoid of sex from what I see in the present as well as near future episodes... :-)
So, please, watch Discovery Channel or something else... I'm ready for this show to be cancelled......
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Hi TD,
I promise I would change the channel if I could. I'm so sorry to hear about the difficult situation you are in right now. My heart goes out to you.
I wish there was more that I could do, but I will offer prayers that it gets better. Perhaps there is a windfall headed your way, or maybe HP is using this as a way to bring something better into your life.
And if nothing else, at least he'll keep you boil-free for the foreseeable future.
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I promise I would change the channel if I could. I'm so sorry to hear about the difficult situation you are in right now. My heart goes out to you.
I wish there was more that I could do, but I will offer prayers that it gets better. Perhaps there is a windfall headed your way, or maybe HP is using this as a way to bring something better into your life.
And if nothing else, at least he'll keep you boil-free for the foreseeable future.
:ghug3
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Originally Posted by TDinATL 
I'm a business owner in a fairly small town and, much more importantly, a Christian man trying to live a life of example.show
What's that saying "the rain falls on both the just and the unjust"
I like that one. Hang in there!
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Just thought I'd toss in a favorite quote from Mother Tersea...
"I know God won't give me anything I can't handle.
I just wish He didn't trust me so much."
Love that one... hang in there
"I know God won't give me anything I can't handle.
I just wish He didn't trust me so much."
Love that one... hang in there
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Love that Alice!
Anvil awesome post as always!
TD
to you! I wish it was that easy sometimes to just change the channel-
I truly do believe that we are given no more than we can handle-it is learning how to handle things that is the tuff job-when we do it seems a lot less overbearing IMHO.
With every problem there is a solution (At least that is what my boss tells us on a daily basis) I'm learning this to be true-those that we cannot create a solution for we need to hand over to our HP!
Blessing to you TD
Anvil awesome post as always!
TD
to you! I wish it was that easy sometimes to just change the channel-I truly do believe that we are given no more than we can handle-it is learning how to handle things that is the tuff job-when we do it seems a lot less overbearing IMHO.
With every problem there is a solution (At least that is what my boss tells us on a daily basis) I'm learning this to be true-those that we cannot create a solution for we need to hand over to our HP!
Blessing to you TD
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One thing's for sure- you still have your sense of humor. Unfortunately, my friend- my show is still on as well. The one thing that comes to my mind- and I need to remember for myself is: This too shall pass. I have to depend on that. (((Hang in there)))
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Thanks all, I do know it will pass - and that helps more than I can say. I do have to agree - God must REALLY trust me! In all honesty I should be honored and humbled.
Anvilhead, that's one thing I can honestly say - I have no desire to fling mud at my wife (or anyone) - even through the divorce. Some of the things I have to do to protect myself are making me be a person I don't like or want to be, like putting my wife's belongings in the driveway to keep her from coming in the house. But her actions and words lately force me to protect myself, I still don't like it.
Anvilhead, that's one thing I can honestly say - I have no desire to fling mud at my wife (or anyone) - even through the divorce. Some of the things I have to do to protect myself are making me be a person I don't like or want to be, like putting my wife's belongings in the driveway to keep her from coming in the house. But her actions and words lately force me to protect myself, I still don't like it.
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I can't offer you any advice other than to tell you that I'm thinking of you and am sending you hugs. You are going through a tough time; it can only get better from here. I admire you for your courage and sense of humor.
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Thanks again everyone. It's nice to post here and just vent it out. I just realized, in reading my threads - the alcohol issues is not being addressed as much as other issues now, however the issues at hand are either fully or somewhat a result of the alcohol issues. I've just AW out of my life for a couple months now and don't have to deal with the alcohol directly.
Steve, I sure wish I knew what would be most helpful right now. Lots going on. I'm really not doing as bad as some of my posts sound - I just get hit with stuff and drop it here!
Steve, I sure wish I knew what would be most helpful right now. Lots going on. I'm really not doing as bad as some of my posts sound - I just get hit with stuff and drop it here!
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