Hi
 

I just registered here. I think this is where I should be but perhaps someone could let me know if I am in the wrong place. I was with my ex husband for 14 years. He was a violent alcoholic, well he still is. I am trying to move on with my life. We are divorced I have custody of our 2 kids and I have re-married. However, I find myself still very much in his control. I am still afraid everyday and really do not know how to just "get over it." It seems like everywhere I turn or every way that I try to change things, they all go back to him running the show. I don't know, I am lost.

Yes...you are in the correct place and Welcome!

Even if you are divorced obviously his actions are
a source of distress for you.
:hug:

Blessings to you and your family

Welcome!

As long as you have children you will be connected to some degree or another. Its got to be hard for you. Have you tried individual therapy or AlAnon. They can both be very helpful. Especially if you suffered abuse.

Hi and Welcome : )

Welcome
 

STILLBROKEN

you are in the write place. B52 hit it right on the head, with kids
your kinda stuck. However with all the differant ways of communicating
today. You could change things up a bit, insist on email only, or third party only (ie) new husband, or text only, or any other way that you see fit.
Take your power back and stick to it.

Good Luck, & God Bless

:ghug3

Thank you all for your kind words.
This is the first place/thing I have done so far for myself in regards to any kind of help. Maybe someone could point me in the right direction of where I need to start. ? I don't think I am ready for public meeting or anything like that which is why I searched on the net and found this place :)

Hi and welcome. You know you can always go to the meetings and listen rather than share your story. Also, if you are connected to a church or synagogue, you can speak to a minister or Rabbi for counseling. Many cities and states have abuse hotlines and I'm sure they could give you direction to counseling resources in your area. If you fear for your safety and you children's, speaking to the police and a lawyer would be in order to get a protective/restraining order.

Welcome :ghug