tryingtofly

I don't know. I have an anxiety disorder and part of it is that I can't stand change. I don't like not knowing what's going to happen. As sad as it is, at least with his drinking I knew what to expect. Now I don't and it scares the crap outta me.

LaTeeDa

So, has any of this helped you figure out what you need to recover from?

L

really_fed_up

Trying,

Do they have counseling services at your school? That might be an easier first step...for your schedule and yourself. I, too, have an anxiety disorder, and when I was first beginning to deal with it, I went to a counselor at school. It worked wonders.

FormerDoormat

I, too, don't believe an adult deserves a pat on the back for acting like a responsible adult; it's expected.

I also don't expect praise for maintaining my house, fixing dinner, doing the laundry, going to work every day, and paying the bills. I do these things for myself--not for others--because I am a responsible adult. I am not a victim.

cagefree

At first I felt anger, and bitter resentment towards XABF for everything I did for him and how could he just throw me out...then I felt guilty for abandoning and neglecting myself and my own needs.

When people go out of their way and ignore their own needs to do something for me that I didn't ask or want them to do, very rarely do I feel it necessary to thank them. It's not my job to make him into a decent human being.