Confused again!!!
Recovering Codependant
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Join Date: Oct 2007
Location: Liverpool, Great Britain
Posts: 1,335
Thanks everyone, I really appreciate your words of wisdom and experience. I feel less confused as time goes on. Its not easy, I keep getting pangs of hurt and I feel like I just want to sit and cry, but I'm keeping my tears at bay by forcing myself to remember why i am doing this. I must be really delusioned to love a person who may have stolen from me, and who has emotionally and verbally abused me. Its just that each time I think these thoughts, I also think that this was due to the drinking, which leads me back to if he recovers from this..... However, I know now that he isn't recovering at this time and that I cannot live with him anymore because of the never ending circle of stopping, starting, being horrid, stopping, starting... That was draining me and hurt so much that I know for my own sake I cannot go down that path with him anymore.
I can see now that he hasn't really made any progress, and I have decided that going to AA meetings alone isn't recovery. Looking back I don't know why I thought it was!
Nope, never. Just tried to think of some, and nothing came to mind, how bad is that!!! I'm going to start one though because I am adamant that I am going to make some changes about myself and how I respect myself.
My dealbreakers...
1) Stealing
2) Cheating
3) Lying
Well thats a start. I'd be interested to know other peoples breakers for ideas?
Thanks again to you all for helping me through another bump on my road!
Lily xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
I can see now that he hasn't really made any progress, and I have decided that going to AA meetings alone isn't recovery. Looking back I don't know why I thought it was!
Nope, never. Just tried to think of some, and nothing came to mind, how bad is that!!! I'm going to start one though because I am adamant that I am going to make some changes about myself and how I respect myself.
My dealbreakers...
1) Stealing
2) Cheating
3) Lying
Well thats a start. I'd be interested to know other peoples breakers for ideas?
Thanks again to you all for helping me through another bump on my road!
Lily xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Recovering Codependant
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Its a process Lilyflower. One that takes time and willingness to look deeply into our lives and our inner selves. Its painful and difficult. But you are working on it and that is the important part. If you happen to receive some further insights thru what you see here, well, isn't that why we're here to begin with?
Recovering Codependant
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Join Date: Oct 2007
Location: Liverpool, Great Britain
Posts: 1,335
Thanks Barbara, i feel good about considering these things. I'm obviously starting to move into a whole new direction for me, which can only be a good thing! Its helped to see other people's ideas, I read things that people have stated they would not accept and I think ''I wonder why I never considered that?'' It's definately a positive step for me.
Lily xxxxxxxx
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