Agonizing Over Life Changes
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Agonizing Over Life Changes
As a supplement to my first thread.
How do you tell someone you've spent months, years with that you can't have them in your life anymore?
I feel like a victim of my past codependency and complacence. I simply don't know if I have the strength to escape.
How do you tell someone you've spent months, years with that you can't have them in your life anymore?
I feel like a victim of my past codependency and complacence. I simply don't know if I have the strength to escape.
Good luck!
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I think that if you start doing activities that are healthy, that don't involve substances, a lot of these people will very quickly fall by the wayside.
I could be wrong, but I don't think a lot of energy vampires would jump at "Hey! Let's go down Saturday night and work at the soup kitchen!" (Not that it's the only thing you could do, by a long shot.)
My circle had one really annoying woman who was just a PITA when she drank. I have no idea if she was an actual alcoholic. But she was DEFINITELY a PITA. We quit drinking with her, but still politely invited her to things like yoga, the odd coffee date or school fair. She drifted away pretty quickly.
I could be wrong, but I don't think a lot of energy vampires would jump at "Hey! Let's go down Saturday night and work at the soup kitchen!" (Not that it's the only thing you could do, by a long shot.)
My circle had one really annoying woman who was just a PITA when she drank. I have no idea if she was an actual alcoholic. But she was DEFINITELY a PITA. We quit drinking with her, but still politely invited her to things like yoga, the odd coffee date or school fair. She drifted away pretty quickly.
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