what is my responsibilty
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I'm not here to judge but I'm sure there is no way you could live with yourself if your partner hurt or killed someone while drunk behind the wheel. I think you owe it to all the innocent people out there to protect them from that.
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It certainly is my responsibilty ..
as a citizen and morally.
And yes...I have reported a drunk driver.
You just miht be saving the drivers life
or injuries as well as innocents.
as a citizen and morally.
And yes...I have reported a drunk driver.
You just miht be saving the drivers life
or injuries as well as innocents.
That is a very difficult question to deal with. If this is someone you love, it's extremely hard to purposefully turn them in when you know it will bring more chaos into their already crazy lives.
I have called the police on my own A son (he was threatening suicide). It was hard. Really hard. But I knew it was the right thing to do. It didn't make it hurt any less.
By not turning in someone who is driving drunk, we enable them to continue to drive under the influence.....possible to kill or maim someone else's child, or wife, or husband, or mother, or father, or grandparent. When you look at it that way, it makes it a bit easier.
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I have called the police on my own A son (he was threatening suicide). It was hard. Really hard. But I knew it was the right thing to do. It didn't make it hurt any less.
By not turning in someone who is driving drunk, we enable them to continue to drive under the influence.....possible to kill or maim someone else's child, or wife, or husband, or mother, or father, or grandparent. When you look at it that way, it makes it a bit easier.
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Redbear, I know where you are coming from. My brother had his lincense revoked for 10 years after 3 driving under the influence arrests. (it's not his fault, per him)That was 9 years ago, had 1 year left. He was just caught 3 weeks ago again. Now he's facing felony dui, driving while revoked, peace disturbance. His vehicle is now at my house, disabled. He goes to court next month & probably will receive prison time. I threatened my brother one night to call the cops because he got in his truck at my house, drunk. He left anyway. I didn't call the cops, but I was praying because I was scared he would hit someone. Thankfully he didn't. I know exactly where you are coming from. If you call the cops, you feel guilty because they are going to jail. If you don't, someone innocent could be killed. If I could do it over again, I would call. It was just 2 months after that incident that he was picked up for his latest offenses anyway. I decided after this latest arrest, that I just can't help him anymore. He has to want to change, and he doesn't. Nothing is ever his fault. That's when I joined this site.
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All I can say is I would call if I knew someone was driving drunk because I wouldn't want to hear later that they hurt or killed someone and I did nothing to stop it.
I didn't call. Then last week my AH hit a minivan with a family of four inside. Everyone will be ok, but it is traumatic and the family didn't deserve it. His blood alcohol level hasn't come back yet, but there were open containers in the truck. He had been drinking. So yeah, I'm feeling remorse since I could have prevented this if I had called the police the previous times I suspected he was driving while impaired. If I had it to do over again, I would call.
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what is my responsibilty?
To be able to live with the choices I make.
What do you want to do? Whether anyone takes action after you call doesn't matter - what matters is what you feel is the right thing for YOU to do.
To be able to live with the choices I make.
What do you want to do? Whether anyone takes action after you call doesn't matter - what matters is what you feel is the right thing for YOU to do.
Thank you, for your posts...I did call the police one night when my ah got the keys away from me, i teol him i would do it everytime and i gave the police permission to seize my car untill i got there. In Dec. was another incident, where he was drinking and drive with a rental car on business, and the next morning i told him i would start calling his rental companys and tell them he drinks and drives with their cars. And last night he drank and drove another rental and he is in a different country.
Q: do you think it is my responsiblity to call the rental companies? I should let yopu know that one of his DUI's is with a rental car and his boss had to rescue him, i don't think his boss is going to take much more? My husband doesn't see the possibility that he could get strike 4 in DUI, a different countries law, jail time, killing himself or someone else, loosing his job, loosing his family.....
Q: do you think it is my responsiblity to call the rental companies? I should let yopu know that one of his DUI's is with a rental car and his boss had to rescue him, i don't think his boss is going to take much more? My husband doesn't see the possibility that he could get strike 4 in DUI, a different countries law, jail time, killing himself or someone else, loosing his job, loosing his family.....
What have you done to protect you and your family from financial ruin?
I don't think it is your responsibility to call the rental companies, but I'm trying to put myself in your shoes. With the history your AH has, I would probably call because I would feel bad if something ever happened to anyone else (which is usually the case in a drunk driving case)
Although I could have a biased opinion because my aunt and two cousins were almost killed by a guy that was drunk and high and on his way to an AA meeting.
Although I could have a biased opinion because my aunt and two cousins were almost killed by a guy that was drunk and high and on his way to an AA meeting.
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I DO call when I am driving and see someone on the road who is driving erratically,so I guess that just because I know them,should not prevent me from making the call. (I have not been in the position to make this choice...yet,but I guess when the time comes,I know what I will need to do.)
I don't think you need to tell the rental company. They should run the license,I would think,if it is a concern of theirs. I would hope they have that option. (If not,perhaps that is something that lawmakers should consider.)
I try my best to live by the golden rule. I don't want drunk drivers knowingly coming at me or my loved ones (or anyone, else for that matter)......and I am sure others would feel the same way,too.
I don't think you need to tell the rental company. They should run the license,I would think,if it is a concern of theirs. I would hope they have that option. (If not,perhaps that is something that lawmakers should consider.)
I try my best to live by the golden rule. I don't want drunk drivers knowingly coming at me or my loved ones (or anyone, else for that matter)......and I am sure others would feel the same way,too.
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Hmm...
The police arrested the man I reported
I was visiting his neighbor when I saw
him staggering around his yard.
He got into his truck..after a few tries
got it moving. That's when I phoned.
He was turning on a street a few feet
from his driveway They knew him as he
had several drunk incidents arest previously.
He had a bottle between his legs ..on his way to get more.
I found this out when he arrived in AA.
He stayed sober over 2 years and moved away.
The police arrested the man I reported
I was visiting his neighbor when I saw
him staggering around his yard.
He got into his truck..after a few tries
got it moving. That's when I phoned.
He was turning on a street a few feet
from his driveway They knew him as he
had several drunk incidents arest previously.
He had a bottle between his legs ..on his way to get more.
I found this out when he arrived in AA.
He stayed sober over 2 years and moved away.
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