when will |I learn
 

So V day is here - do not really care bit SBXA planned a fondue for us since I have been working so much. Was looking forward to a nice relaxing dinner after a really hard day

So we are at the table having dinner - it is 5 pm here.. he falls asleep totally gunned when i get home from work.. grrrr
there he is now at the table - asleep i cleaned up around him - did the dishes
and am going to settle in to watch Dr phil

I am leaving April 1 .. but my god can we not even have a dinner that he can make it through..

shakarris

oh yeah and I took pictures to remind me of why I am leaving
what an A%%

Sorry but I just have to laugh! Why...??? Because my Ah is past out in the bathroom right now! Has been since about 5:30...it is now 7:43

Ahhh I have to say I don't even care I am taking care of me:-)

thanks for the chuckle daisy.... I should not be surprized by anymeans...
guess I always think more of me than he does

his loss


shakarrias

I just shake my head at that, only because I remember the times my husband did that.

It's so frustrating and seems so pointless at times.

I think it's wonderful you are leaving. Good for you.

When it came to plans for the evening, I discovered it was always better if I had no expectations. No expectations = no disappointments = less frustration and anger on my part.

omg I love the taking pictures idea!! It's too easy to forgive and especially "forget" part ... or more specifically I gloss over it and think "maybe it wasn't that bad after all" but pictures don't lie right?? I love it!!!!

KBear I just had to take them.

Funny he woke up from the table and staggered off to bed. Then woke up around 9ish, came into the living room attempting conversation and was hungry. He asked if there was anything to eat - I said check the fridge dont know.

He grumbled well that is great after I worked so hard to make you a nice dinner. I just laughed.. almost wanted to share the pics with him but he was still gunned and it would have just started a fight.

He just kept muttering under his breath(I hate that), the all not so nice things he says while in this state- when I would not engage off to bed with him.

I agree h2h I have to learn to not to expect then I won't get frustrated.
THANKS for the reminder

shakarris

I agree once I stopped expecting (him to be sober).....my life became more stable. I was no longer on the rollercoaster.

Shak :Val004:

Keep going strong! Being aware of what is going on around us and the reason we get out is soely for US! I think you got that down! Great job!