queenteree

I totally agree with the above. A few weeks ago, at a shopping center near my house, my AH was so drunk and staggering he actually fell into a car head first, got up again, staggered again, fell into another car, cracked his head open, broke his ribs, and got knocked out. I happened to have been in the deli at the time and saw this. Hate to say it, but I left him there. He's so embarassed, he hasn't been to that shopping center since, but I have. I wasn't the one displaying inappropriate behavior or making a fool out of myself. He was. All I did when he woke up the next day, all sore and all, was ask him how he was feeling and did he need a ride to the dr. End of conversation, and still haven't brought it up since.

minah

This is still faulty thinking because it assumes that if I am more serene about the insane behaviour, I can influence a particular outcome (realization that a sober life is probably better). It rather goes against my desire to stop controlling people -Step 1.

I suppose what I am trying to do now is not to suppress my anger etc. but to channel it a bit better. For right now my best response has been to make sure I stay physically away from the insanity of alcoholism. I don't yet trust myself in an insane situation. Too much conditioning to unlearn.

Growing

I agree with you minah 100%.

Several people have expressed their disagreement with the "correct reaction".

However, I found the description of the roles we play interesting.

"I stay physically away from the insanity of alcoholism."----glad to see someone who feels the same way I do. I choose not to EVER live with alcoholism again. I had it with both of my parents because I was a child and didn't have the priviledge of "divorcing" my parents. As soon as I was able to move out....I was gone and I have never regretted it.

If anyone ever gets drunk around me, no matter who they are, I leave.