What Have I Done??
My Cape Is at The Cleaners
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What Have I Done??
OMG!
YOU KNOW IT MUST HAVE BEEN KRYPTONITE THAT GOT ME WEAK!!!!
I just realized something about that girl I was seeing. She was always drinking!
Nope I look back and see it and I can not imagine why I fell but I did.
She always had to have a drink. In fact I never saw her eat much… I think I’m going to hide.
YOU KNOW IT MUST HAVE BEEN KRYPTONITE THAT GOT ME WEAK!!!!
I just realized something about that girl I was seeing. She was always drinking!
Nope I look back and see it and I can not imagine why I fell but I did.
She always had to have a drink. In fact I never saw her eat much… I think I’m going to hide.
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We get used to what we have been seeing - and minimizing - for years. Please give yourself a pat on the back for realizing it before you had her move in with you, or worse yet - married her.
Okay. You made a mistake. It is probably to be expected, since you were married to an A. But it isn't life threatening or terminal. You will not die from making a bad choice. You will not blow your recovery from making a bad choice. You and I do mean Y-O-U will recover.
Knowledge is power. You have the knowledge; you have the power. Please look at this as a lesson you have learned. You are NOT doomed to repeat it ad nauseum.
FORGIVE YOURSELF AND MOVE ON.
Okay. You made a mistake. It is probably to be expected, since you were married to an A. But it isn't life threatening or terminal. You will not die from making a bad choice. You will not blow your recovery from making a bad choice. You and I do mean Y-O-U will recover.
Knowledge is power. You have the knowledge; you have the power. Please look at this as a lesson you have learned. You are NOT doomed to repeat it ad nauseum.
FORGIVE YOURSELF AND MOVE ON.
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You know when I did my 4th step, I realized that my past relationships were littered with alcoholics... then I married one... truth be told, I have always been drawn to alcoholics and will most likely always be drawn to them... if the relationship I am in now would end, I would probably find another to take his place. The difference for me today, is ME.. how I behave, how I react.. it's not about the other person, as long as I remain spiritually fit....
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Better late than never Mr C. You sounds as though you are beginning to 'see' from out of your usual box. Good for you. As time goes on you'll probably catch on to the flags abit faster.
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When we act out of habit rather than conscious choice, the path we’re traveling on is a rut, perhaps even a slippery slope....I agree with Prod and a lot and the others! Do that 4th step again! It is amazing the awareness and how we begin to wake up again!
Please do not beat yourself up over this-dust off that KRYPTONITE and keep going!
Grieve her/the relationship and poof she will be gone! Keep telling yourself you deserve better..because you have a lot to offer!
Please do not beat yourself up over this-dust off that KRYPTONITE and keep going!
Grieve her/the relationship and poof she will be gone! Keep telling yourself you deserve better..because you have a lot to offer!
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Originally Posted by denny57 
I don't psychoanalyze every little thing I do until my brain melts and my eye sockets leak.
Maybe this situation fell into your lap as another wake up call. Luckily you got out of it relatively unscathed. It seems to me to be a reason to dig a little deeper. . . but don't hurt yourself in the process.
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hey mr c.,,,,,,it's not a bad thing, a very bad thing.
you saw the flags. you realized there were flags. the realization is a huge thing, here.
you are out there trying, learning, and not afraid to try.....that is huge, too.
hey, maybe look deeper than the pretty face, eh?
don't be so hard on yourself, and do something nice for yourself today.
you saw the flags. you realized there were flags. the realization is a huge thing, here.
you are out there trying, learning, and not afraid to try.....that is huge, too.
hey, maybe look deeper than the pretty face, eh?
don't be so hard on yourself, and do something nice for yourself today.
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Mr. C -
I found this website today -- watch the video and chalk this up to a "relationship for a reason".
A Reason, a Season, or a Lifetime
I found this website today -- watch the video and chalk this up to a "relationship for a reason".
A Reason, a Season, or a Lifetime
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the flags were dipped in vodka, and hung on her big bobbies, and even THERE he dint see them waving in the wind.
Mr. C.....what we gonna do with ya?
Girls....I think its time to plan an intervention fro our resident hottie/codie boy.:ghug
Mr. C.....what we gonna do with ya?
Girls....I think its time to plan an intervention fro our resident hottie/codie boy.:ghug
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