Mr. Christian

Believe me I understand all the above and thank you all for the kind words.
I guess the unbelievable part was what Kermit went over.
The whole bringing me back in just to let me go again.
I think it was my own Bazzaro world where everything was opposite of what it should be.

Miss Pink

Did ya notice the red flags, but looked the other way anyhow?

If so.....the healing in you isnt completed. As a recovering relationship addict, I have to pay attention to those flags. My life depends on it.

Emotionally unavailable people have more flags than a US Naval ship....they wave and flap all over the place. I have learned, I hope, to see them and pay attention to them and not give in to my lonliness because I want to be loved.

Im loved by a power so much greater than a man.....God. He taught me what flags look like and to trust my instincts.

splendra

I think a mistake that many of us make (me included) is to become too involved too soon.

I wonder what makes me not protect myself?
I wonder what makes me not see how vulnerable I am when I allow someone to get physically close to me?
Why do I not keep my sexual energy inside of me instead of wanting to spread it around all over someone I just met?
Why do I not see how vital this sexual energy of mine is?
Why do I not see my partnership with the divine in this energy?
When will I have a look at my sexual energy and see that it is part of my life force and not be so willing to give it too anyone who will take it from me?

kermit

A hug for today, be kind to yourself

geees poncho

Somewhere there is a book about (the dumper & dumpee syndrome) I dont know the name of it,
but I did hear about the scenario, it made sense.
Just trying to help. I just know, (what goes around, comes around)
( you reap what you sow) Some times these words HELP.
And you know in your heart that there is something better out there for you.

Rella927

Mr. C I agree with Laurie too.....I know I felt ready to go back out there and bam the same happened...I gave to much to quickly-and I feel it was because I truly was not ready for my own reasons-I felt good and thought I was but, it happens.

Please do not beat yourself up over this! We are human...we feel...we grieve...we move on...

And I also second FD "SNAP OUT OF IT"

CBrown

Hugs, Superman. It will take time, be patient. I've gotten sucked back into the drama more times than I care to admit. Finally you have to say YOU DESERVE BETTER. But in the meantime, get the grieving out so you can be done with it.

DetachMe9

Just make sure you don't cry about it in public. It could completely blow your chances in the presidential election.

Sorry. Seriously, relationships are all rolls of the dice, no matter how healed and ready we are. Risk is always involved. But after all the pain, I'm still glad I chose to play life than sit it out on the sidelines.

WantsOut

Mr. C, I think it was progress that you were able to trust at all. I keep freaking out and running away if it even looks like I might get to the first date phase. I don't want any trouble.

Time heals all wounds, my friend.

Mr. Christian

Well dating is tough, and they dont come with warning labels when you find them

FormerDoormat

The last guy I dated had a warning label of sorts. On our first date he asked me, "so how many dates do you generally go on before you have sex?" Guess he wasn't interested in getting to know me first.

Mr. Christian

WantsOut

On our first date he asked me, "so how many dates do you generally go on before you have sex?"

*grin* Ya gotta love the subtle ones.

FormerDoormat

Needless to say, he didn't get the goods. Instead, I gave him the boot. AFTER I got the recipe for the fabulous pasta dish he'd cooked me.

That way the evening wasn't a total loss.