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03-30-2015, 11:59 AM

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LexieCat

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Hi, atos,

I'm so very sorry for your loss. It's horrible and tragic.

This is a very old thread (from 2008)--maybe you'd like to start a new one and talk there about your loss? I'm afraid your post might kind of get buried here.

Hugs,

03-30-2015, 12:53 PM

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ghost99

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Like others have suggested, it's much better to focus on your own health. I think sometimes we underestimate the damage to our bodies that is caused by the stress of living with an A. He might live into his 80's while you have taken years of your own life waiting for that person to change.

08-02-2021, 08:39 PM

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ImJustDone

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Totally Understand!

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Originally Posted by sympathy gone

Well, like my username says "sympathy gone"... I have seemed to detach too far. He'll say he hurt his back at work, and I really don't care, and that's sooo not me. It seems I have shut down all emotion so that I don't feel the hurt, but in turn I don't feel the happiness either (when the few times arise). I'm a a person who loves to love and laugh, and it seems like it's been forever since I've felt either. I'm concerned about his health, but he's an adult and can make he own choices. As can I. I'm just afraid of the choices that are in front of me.

Hiya! I totally understand the feeling of completely shutting down! My AH has been drinking for years and I am so over it to the point I just don’t care what he does anymore! He could not come home tomorrow and I would be completely okay with that! It gets so exhausting walking on eggshells every single day..not wanting to set him off by saying anything that he may perceive as negative toward him or his drinking. Nothing is ever his fault! How are we supposed to act like this doesn’t bother us when to any rational person, it is ridiculous behavior on the daily? Praying for you, Sister, as it seems we are in the same boat!

08-03-2021, 03:32 AM

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08-03-2021, 04:49 AM

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SparkleKitty

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Originally Posted by ImJustDone

How are we supposed to act like this doesn’t bother us when to any rational person, it is ridiculous behavior on the daily?

Hey there, friend. You've replied to a very old thread; I doubt the original poster or many of the respondents are around anymore. Why don't you start a new thread of your own?

As for your question above, I guess I would ask, Why are you supposed to act like it doesn't bother you?