Leaving Room for Feelings
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Leaving Room for Feelings
For someone that many times ignored how I truly felt inside, I found this to be very helpful in acceptance of myself, and what I was feeling.
From The Language of Letting Go - Melody Beattie August 15 reading
We need to allow enough room for others and ourselves to have and work through our feelings.
We are people, not robots. An important part of us - who we are, how we grow, how we live - is connected to our emotional center. We have feelings, sometimes difficult ones, sometimes disruptive ones, sometimes explosive ones, that need to be worked through.
By facing and working through these feelings we and others grow. In relationships, whether it be a love relationship, a friendship, a family relationship, or a close business relationship, people need room to have and work through their feelings.
Some call it “going through the process.”
It is unreasonable to expect ourselves or others to not need time and room to work through feelings. We will be setting ourselves and our relationships up for failure if we do not allow this time and room in our life.
We need time to work through feelings. We need the space and permission to work through these feelings in the awkward, uncomfortable, sometimes messy way that people work through feelings.
This is life. This is growth. This is okay.
We can allow room for feelings. We can let people have time and permission to go through their feelings. We do not have to keep ourselves or others under such a tight rein. While we work through our feelings we do not have to expend unnecessary energy reacting to each feeling we or others have. We don’t have to take all our feelings, and others’ feelings, so seriously while we or others are in the process of working through them.
Let the feelings flow and trust where the flow is taking you.
I can set reasonable boundaries for behavior, and still leave room for a range of emotions.
From The Language of Letting Go - Melody Beattie August 15 reading
We need to allow enough room for others and ourselves to have and work through our feelings.
We are people, not robots. An important part of us - who we are, how we grow, how we live - is connected to our emotional center. We have feelings, sometimes difficult ones, sometimes disruptive ones, sometimes explosive ones, that need to be worked through.
By facing and working through these feelings we and others grow. In relationships, whether it be a love relationship, a friendship, a family relationship, or a close business relationship, people need room to have and work through their feelings.
Some call it “going through the process.”
It is unreasonable to expect ourselves or others to not need time and room to work through feelings. We will be setting ourselves and our relationships up for failure if we do not allow this time and room in our life.
We need time to work through feelings. We need the space and permission to work through these feelings in the awkward, uncomfortable, sometimes messy way that people work through feelings.
This is life. This is growth. This is okay.
We can allow room for feelings. We can let people have time and permission to go through their feelings. We do not have to keep ourselves or others under such a tight rein. While we work through our feelings we do not have to expend unnecessary energy reacting to each feeling we or others have. We don’t have to take all our feelings, and others’ feelings, so seriously while we or others are in the process of working through them.
Let the feelings flow and trust where the flow is taking you.
I can set reasonable boundaries for behavior, and still leave room for a range of emotions.
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Thanks for posting this ICU! I read that book every morning, my favorite is Dec. 29th. I also read Journey To The Heart by Melody Beattie every day. Always great to start the day with good thoughts.
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I love that reading too Astro! More of my favs are Dec 29 Moving on, Feb 12 Letting go of those not in recovery (Which I refer to as the bridge), Dec 27 Near the top (particularly meaningful to me recently), and Aug 31 Denial - friend AND enemy (which I refer to as the blanket).
I thought I had the other book you mentioned, but instead, I have 'playing it by heart', same author (I knew the book title had 'heart' in it), LOL!
It seems like she's talking 'to me/with me', and not 'at me' in her books. I find that very appealing and tend to absorb the message(s) much better that way.
I thought I had the other book you mentioned, but instead, I have 'playing it by heart', same author (I knew the book title had 'heart' in it), LOL!
It seems like she's talking 'to me/with me', and not 'at me' in her books. I find that very appealing and tend to absorb the message(s) much better that way.
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