My son agreed to go to treatment center
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My son agreed to go to treatment center
Today my son agreed that when I get back home from a few days away to ccelebrate new Yrs. Eve that he and I will pick a treatment center for him and he will go away.
This time I am not set on only one outcome- that he goes.
I decided he needed to go because I can't have him live here with me and have a front row seat watching his alcoholism progress. I can't have the chaos that is resulting in my house. I can't provide a detour from his bottom.
I know this time I am not spending hrs. arranging it in advance (like I did in March when he refused to go at his intervention )
What I do know is that if he had chose not to go or if he changes his mind I am willing to tell him he can't live with me. He was not willing to say he is powerless but he did admit that his life is unmanagable. Call it by any name, he is admitting that it is time to get help. I have hope; I have faith; I have detachment; I have the strength and courage to do what I need to do for myself. I love my son unconditionally; May his HP lead him to the right choices, places and watch over him. Thanks to everyone for your support through my last couple of threads as I determined what would be best for me.
This time I am not set on only one outcome- that he goes.
I decided he needed to go because I can't have him live here with me and have a front row seat watching his alcoholism progress. I can't have the chaos that is resulting in my house. I can't provide a detour from his bottom.
I know this time I am not spending hrs. arranging it in advance (like I did in March when he refused to go at his intervention )
What I do know is that if he had chose not to go or if he changes his mind I am willing to tell him he can't live with me. He was not willing to say he is powerless but he did admit that his life is unmanagable. Call it by any name, he is admitting that it is time to get help. I have hope; I have faith; I have detachment; I have the strength and courage to do what I need to do for myself. I love my son unconditionally; May his HP lead him to the right choices, places and watch over him. Thanks to everyone for your support through my last couple of threads as I determined what would be best for me.
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I think that is awesome if he keeps his word.
You say you are on the Calif Coast. There is a place in Santa Cruz called Janus Recovery. It is still in existence and even better than it used to be. I sent several sponsees there for detox and most did the residential treatment program also.
It is intensive. Not only keeping their own rooms clean, but chores, taking a turn at cooking, lots of individual and group sessions, and they take them to meetings in the community, and I can tell you there are some excellent meetings in the SC community.
they are Non-profit and work mainly by donations of all kinds, thus your son would in essence be doing this "On His Own" a great morale booster later.
Here is the web addy:
Janus of Santa Cruz - Leaders in substance abuse treatment
Hope the info helps. Have a great New Year!!!!!!
Love and hugs,
You say you are on the Calif Coast. There is a place in Santa Cruz called Janus Recovery. It is still in existence and even better than it used to be. I sent several sponsees there for detox and most did the residential treatment program also.
It is intensive. Not only keeping their own rooms clean, but chores, taking a turn at cooking, lots of individual and group sessions, and they take them to meetings in the community, and I can tell you there are some excellent meetings in the SC community.
they are Non-profit and work mainly by donations of all kinds, thus your son would in essence be doing this "On His Own" a great morale booster later.
Here is the web addy:
Janus of Santa Cruz - Leaders in substance abuse treatment
Hope the info helps. Have a great New Year!!!!!!
Love and hugs,
get it, give it, grow in it
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I have a feeling
"Keep your expectations low. He aint sober til he's sober."
At 1st glance this seems like a glass- half- empty thought.
But I know this is the reality of addiction.
I do appreciate hearing what I may need to hear.
I will look at the place in Santa Cruz bec. there is some synchronicity to it
(which I won't explain now)
I just got home tonight and my son returns tomorrow.
Let's see how it progresses. I have a feeling he will go away for treatment.
At 1st glance this seems like a glass- half- empty thought.
But I know this is the reality of addiction.
I do appreciate hearing what I may need to hear.
I will look at the place in Santa Cruz bec. there is some synchronicity to it
(which I won't explain now)
I just got home tonight and my son returns tomorrow.
Let's see how it progresses. I have a feeling he will go away for treatment.
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God Bless to you and your son.
I have been dealing with my daughter's ongoing deterioration with alcoholism for two years. She is now on the street, as I will not allow her to live under my roof and she is no longer able to manage an apartment. She has resisted every single effort that has been made to help her. I am out of options - I have very little left but hope...
I work a really strong spiritual program in Alanon because it is the only thing that is keeping me going every day....
I have been dealing with my daughter's ongoing deterioration with alcoholism for two years. She is now on the street, as I will not allow her to live under my roof and she is no longer able to manage an apartment. She has resisted every single effort that has been made to help her. I am out of options - I have very little left but hope...
I work a really strong spiritual program in Alanon because it is the only thing that is keeping me going every day....
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Originally Posted by Spiritual Seeker 
Today my son agreed that when I get back home from a few days away to ccelebrate new Yrs. Eve that he and I will pick a treatment center for him and he will go away.
I have hope; I have faith; I have detachment; I have the strength and courage to do what I need to do for myself. I love my son unconditionally; May his HP lead him to the right choices, places and watch over him. Thanks to everyone for your support through my last couple of threads as I determined what would be best for me.
I have hope; I have faith; I have detachment; I have the strength and courage to do what I need to do for myself. I love my son unconditionally; May his HP lead him to the right choices, places and watch over him. Thanks to everyone for your support through my last couple of threads as I determined what would be best for me.
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my ex husband went to treatment in March 07. Halleluah, I thought. Now he will get well.....
didnt work out that way. THATS why I say keep expectations low. After he is sober a year, THEN throw a party. As you said, must live in reality, not fantasy.
That being said, I hear daily of peoples loved one getting and staying sober. It CAN be done...if he wants it bad enough. I HOPE he does!!!!
didnt work out that way. THATS why I say keep expectations low. After he is sober a year, THEN throw a party. As you said, must live in reality, not fantasy.
That being said, I hear daily of peoples loved one getting and staying sober. It CAN be done...if he wants it bad enough. I HOPE he does!!!!
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