geees poncho

On 9/26/07 her and I had a minor spat that went ballistic, I am settleing down to near mellow, I filed D papers, she filed D papers, we have both been in A recovery quite awhile. Now I'm finally ready to talk to her about healing,
and see if there is any hope for us, I was very upset with her, and ended up in jail for 14hrs, cooling of time, nothing came out of it. but when I came home she packed up a ton of stuff and left, and then she was very upset that I filed D papers. BLA BLA BLA. I just want to know has any one gone back & had it work out, or would it be a waste of time. I'm 58, shes 44, I would like it to be salvageable. there is a lot more to it, this is only the surface
But there has been no useing or cheating as far as I know.

ICU

What you have described is very sketchy at best. Even if you gave more details, it would be impossible to predict if it would work out or be a waste of time. No one knows those answers for themselves, let alone anyone else.

I can only tell you that in my previous situation, there where things going on besides alcoholism that made it impossible 'for me' to stay. It's a personal decision for each of us.

All I can suggest is to look deep within you to see what your 'gut' tells you as far as pursuing this, or, letting it go.

I know it's hard. And maybe the answers aren't meant for you to know today. But, they will be revealed to you sometime down the road, when you are ready. I know, that doesn't help much does it?