Christmas shopping a little early this year...
 

LAST YEAR for Christmas:

*I let XABF back into my life and got hurt
*I supported him and did not aid myself in my own recovery
*I alienated myself from family and friends, especially those with significant others and kids
*I HATED him for everything he did to me and blamed him for my misery
*I stressed myself over how someone could lie to me and choose to be alone with beer than in a house with me
*I was finding porn everywhere when I began to toss out the stuff he left behind
*I found packets upon packets of benadryl


THIS YEAR I'm giving gifts to myself a little earlier. My gifts to myself are:
:day4

*Accepting myself
*Loving myself
*Giving myself time and space when I need it
*Giving myself permission to feel any emotion that comes along
*Not feeling guilty about any feelings I give myself permission to feel
*Reminding myself that tough feelings are temporary and will pass because I have DONE the work, and am a work in progress
*Boundaries I've set that keep me safe
*Keeping people who are hurtful, unworthy of my love and my trust at bay
*Letting go of resentment to those I have let hurt me
*Forgiving myself for letting others hurt me
*My smile
*My warmth
*My love to myself
*My daily affirmations
*My continued growth as a person and recovery of codependency

:)

Awesome list Cage! You go girl!!! :Val004:

Simply awesome! And you deserve every bit of it! (Pssssssssst we all do!)

I wanted to quote the two above, although the entire list is awesome. Taking ownership for our own stuff is HUGE. And I do not think recovery truly begins until that crucial shift has been made.

:You_Rock_

L

Your list of Christmas gifts to yourself ...awesome!
 

Hi cagefree, :mock

I am the alcoholic in recovery but I certainly could use that list of gifts for myself. I still tend to take care of others before myself. But it is getting better.

I read somewhere today where someone that attended AA for many years, was advised by her Sponsor to go to Alanon Meetings...it does sound inviting to me. :comfort

I remember my Sponsor went to Alanon too but her husband was still an active alcoholic. But I have a Brother that is still out there and a son that is permanently disabled from alcohol use so guess I would qualify.

Continue being GOOD to YOURSELF!!!!!!! :day4

kelsh