Start Living
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Originally Posted by ICU 
Excellent! Based on this one post alone, I already nominate this thread for 'sticky of the year'...!
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...c-reading.html
Mike
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Join Date: Apr 2012
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Thank you Elizabeth1979!
I've been living with an A for about 8 years. I noticed that I'd lost myself. I blamed 'other reasons' for that loss until recently when most of the 'other reasons' weren't there any more because of a change I'd made in my life. So I had to do more to get myself back.
I started to live again! I've been in touch with friends, joined museums, signed up for classes, started learning another language, and am generally more myself. It's a work in progress.
The A is still in my life, he just went into a clinic and everyone who loves him are hoping for the best. I was looking for answers for what I need to be doing. I think your 'start living' is the best I've found. I just need to keep going in the direction I've started.
Thanks again!
I've been living with an A for about 8 years. I noticed that I'd lost myself. I blamed 'other reasons' for that loss until recently when most of the 'other reasons' weren't there any more because of a change I'd made in my life. So I had to do more to get myself back.
I started to live again! I've been in touch with friends, joined museums, signed up for classes, started learning another language, and am generally more myself. It's a work in progress.
The A is still in my life, he just went into a clinic and everyone who loves him are hoping for the best. I was looking for answers for what I need to be doing. I think your 'start living' is the best I've found. I just need to keep going in the direction I've started.
Thanks again!
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Join Date: Mar 2012
Location: Alabama
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Elizabeth,
Thank you so much for your post...you give this 26 (working on 27 here in a few wks) year old hope that I will find "myself" again!
I have been doing some of the same things--spent over $100.00 on myself for things like a pedicure (which I've never had in my whole life until a few wks ago), I got highlights put in my hair, went to the beach with a bunch of girls and we had a blast! I've gone no contact with XAH for a month now and I think what I enjoy about it the most--THE STRESS RELIEF AND PEACE!
Thank you so much for your post...you give this 26 (working on 27 here in a few wks) year old hope that I will find "myself" again!
I have been doing some of the same things--spent over $100.00 on myself for things like a pedicure (which I've never had in my whole life until a few wks ago), I got highlights put in my hair, went to the beach with a bunch of girls and we had a blast! I've gone no contact with XAH for a month now and I think what I enjoy about it the most--THE STRESS RELIEF AND PEACE!
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oh you have no idea how this post hit home. Ive been struggling with my husband leaving and now i need to focus on me and i don't have any idea what that even means or how to do that. i've been focused on him, his alcoholism, my kids, my ill parents, etc. for so long, it's all i've ever known. I actually texted my therapist this morning saying that i know i need to focus on me but don't know where to begin. this post was excellent. your strength is inspirational.
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Originally Posted by FindingAmy
oh you have no idea how this post hit home. Ive been struggling with my husband leaving and now i need to focus on me and i don't have any idea what that even means or how to do that. i've been focused on him, his alcoholism, my kids, my ill parents, etc. for so long, it's all i've ever known. I actually texted my therapist this morning saying that i know i need to focus on me but don't know where to begin. this post was excellent. your strength is inspirational.
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