Mr. Christian

Well it turns out that a week after our divorce was final, my ex got married.
Husband 4 please stand.

Now after 6 weeks of marital bliss she left him.

Oh I did not add that he tried to KILL her, 3 times.
Yep told her he was going to kill her.
Cracked her head open, crush her larynx and cut her.

So she is hiding out and said seeking an annulment.

And still no program.

cmc

I am speechless, Mr C. I will say a prayer for your ex to stay safe and find recovery.

Lady BlueMiles

Oh my. Hopefully, she'll surrender to HP soon. Are you ok?

Mr. Christian

I’m sad for her and I told her that.
As much as I will always love her, I can not hear of things like this and be unaffected.
I can however take myself out of the situation.
I told her that she needed to be safe, and that it was painful to hear what she was going through.

We all make choices in life and since she never sought help to fix herself, she still makes the wrong ones.

Today I will hold her pain for only a little while.
Then I will let God deal with the outcome.

ladyjane

Wow!!! That's horrible. No one should have to go thru that.
___________
Trish

FormerDoormat

So sorry to hear that, Mr. C. I'll keep her in my prayers tonight. Now, as for you, would it be easier for you if you didn't keep abreast of what's happening in her life? I know it was easier for me when I didn't know what was happening with Richard.

CatsPajamas

Mr. C ~

Sorry that you had to hear about that. Please take extra good care of you, and remember that what she's going thru has nothing to do with you. Perhaps it's what she needs in order to find recovery.

Hugs

Cats

Mr. Christian

This contact started with her looking for a place to stay.
She told me I was one of the only she really trusted.

But alas I can not let this upset what I have bult.

Pick-a-name

(((Mr. C))) I will be keeping you both in my prayers.

prodigal

Mr. C, I'm very sorry to hear about this turn of events. Yeah, all you can do is get outta the way and let God take over. I hope and pray your ex will find her way to getting help. Nothing is ever hopeless. You can only take care of your own side of the street, and if she decides to self-destruct then it's her choice. ((((Mr. C))))

Janitw

I am going through the same kind of a situation too Mr. C .... I heard tonight that my ex who married 4 days after our divorce was final has been thrown out by the new wifey and that she is also seeking an annulment .... must be the full moon the last couple of nights huh???

kermit

Mr C......I'm sorry for her pain and will say a prayer for her as I do everynight for my X. Ia m so proud of you! You are one awsome guy. Take care and I will be praying for you as always my friend...
Kermmie

goldenleaves

I too will say a prayer for both of you.

I don't post much, but Mr. C., you have no idea how much your posts have helped me over the last 6 months. You tell it like it is, and like we need to hear it. I hope things get better for you and your peace returns.

steve11694

sound like perhaps the person that assaulter her also has "issues" perhaps addiction. what you tell me is horrible but sadly not surprising. i heard from a loved one at a support group for families of addicts how a woman on crystal meth homeless (lost everything from addiction) had been assaulted MANY times in the streets by other addicts/criminals/? finally break denial after the latest assault and losing her last remaining teeth. the good new is that she willfully entered rehab.

Rusty Zipper

Mr C ut-oh!

Janitw

Steve....the recovery rate for meth addicts is less than 3%....I wish her well as I understand this kind of addict well. My ex became one during his affair and before he left us. Its terrible....I hope she turns out to be a success story.

Rusty ......ditto

fluffyflea

Mr C,

As you know she is bringing this on herself. Not your responsibility.

Take care of yourself.

Ngaire

Mr. Christian

Good morning friends,


Thank you still again for your responses.
I had a date last night that went great and this morning brings new opportunities.
I gave some thought to the plight of my ex as well as the issues that all of our “A”s seem to be going though.
I see no end in sight for those who choose not to help themselves in some way.
It seems the nature of some people to keep stepping in piles after they have just wiped their feet.

It was funny that during our conversation my EX could not understand why I did not seem too evolved with what she had told me.
The old “me” would have bent over backwards to help out.

Like many others continue to do.

At this point in MY recovery I am able to put things aside that do not have anything to do with me and find walking away very easy.


Thank you again for your prayers and thoughts.

I do hope God watches over those who can not walk on their own.

Because at this point in time, my cape is in the cleaners.

guyinNC

Sorry Mr. C.....I know how you feel.

My wish for my X is to find sobriety, find a nice man, have a happy life. But alas, we are not that powerful and only they can change their life.

Happy Labor Day Weekend!

Mair

In my thoughts Mr Christian, and im glad your date went well. New beginnings i hope for you.

Mair x