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Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: Murrieta, Ca
Posts: 2,683
This contact started with her looking for a place to stay.
She told me I was one of the only she really trusted.
She told me I was one of the only she really trusted.
We all make choices in life and since she never sought help to fix herself, she still makes the wrong ones.
You know the drill Mr C. Work on you. Have faith, take action, and let God sort it out.
Let Go Let God
Join Date: Mar 2007
Location: jersey shore
Posts: 437
((Mr C)) ..
So sorry that you had to hear that about your ex Mr C .. although sometimes we need to hear things and react to them to realize how far we have grown...and you , Mr C , have had a pretty big growth spurt !
Glad you had a great date and I hope you have many more . keep moving forward and your x is in my prayers as well .
M
So sorry that you had to hear that about your ex Mr C .. although sometimes we need to hear things and react to them to realize how far we have grown...and you , Mr C , have had a pretty big growth spurt !
Glad you had a great date and I hope you have many more . keep moving forward and your x is in my prayers as well .
M
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Join Date: May 2007
Posts: 471
I'll keep your X in my prayers, and hope she is safe.
Mr C, you are such an inspiration! I have been in a rough patch lately as my XAH has taken up with someone that I know is a world class enabler. (Moreso even than I was!) Reading your posts and the wonderful way you've chosen to handle your X's situation (Or should I say not handle?) has really given me encouragment.
Who needs a cape to inspire??
Mr C, you are such an inspiration! I have been in a rough patch lately as my XAH has taken up with someone that I know is a world class enabler. (Moreso even than I was!) Reading your posts and the wonderful way you've chosen to handle your X's situation (Or should I say not handle?) has really given me encouragment.
Who needs a cape to inspire??
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Join Date: May 2006
Location: UK
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as the others have said, No-one deserves that sort of treatment - no matter how poor their choices and I wish her well....
... but the overwhelming thing I get from this post is - you are a shining star of how to NOT let the chaos others have in their lives turn our own up-side down - this would take everything I have to not rescue her. But you have reacted with grace and compassion and still kept yourself safe.
pretty fabulous lesson for me, thank you.
... but the overwhelming thing I get from this post is - you are a shining star of how to NOT let the chaos others have in their lives turn our own up-side down - this would take everything I have to not rescue her. But you have reacted with grace and compassion and still kept yourself safe.
pretty fabulous lesson for me, thank you.
full of hope
Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: Oklahoma
Posts: 1,170
Originally Posted by Mr. Christian 
The old “me” would have bent over backwards to help out.
Originally Posted by Mr. Christian
my cape is in the cleaners.
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Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: Wabbit Hole
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I have a dear friend, Mr. Christain, that has a BS degree, the most wonderful loving parents you will ever know.
She worked for me and was very good at everything. Long story, but eventually she got a promotion and moved out of state. We kept in touch weekly.
Within 6 months, she had found a boyfriend who was a local thug and crack dealer. Her house was raided and she was arrested. She went straight down hill from there.
She claims still that she "loves" this guy.
I don't get it. No one does. It's absolutly astonishing to see a bright mind wasted on drugs.
She is now in jail.
I feel so bad for her, but you know what? I don't have contact any more with her, and I loved her so very much. Still do, Why? Because I can't take the chaos this kind of thing brings to my life.
She's not working a program either.
Im sorry to hear about your xw. It's so sad to see people destroy themselves and not get help. She doesn't deserve to be beaten and abused. Hopefully the creep that did it will be in jail soon.
Take care.
She worked for me and was very good at everything. Long story, but eventually she got a promotion and moved out of state. We kept in touch weekly.
Within 6 months, she had found a boyfriend who was a local thug and crack dealer. Her house was raided and she was arrested. She went straight down hill from there.
She claims still that she "loves" this guy.
I don't get it. No one does. It's absolutly astonishing to see a bright mind wasted on drugs.
She is now in jail.
I feel so bad for her, but you know what? I don't have contact any more with her, and I loved her so very much. Still do, Why? Because I can't take the chaos this kind of thing brings to my life.
She's not working a program either.
Im sorry to hear about your xw. It's so sad to see people destroy themselves and not get help. She doesn't deserve to be beaten and abused. Hopefully the creep that did it will be in jail soon.
Take care.
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