financial ruin
When Pigs Fly
Join Date: Jan 2006
Location: california
Posts: 894
Hello Kay rae, I'm kermit, I can tell you that the same thing happened to me about 1 1/2yrs ago. Although my husband left the state to live with his New Codie. I was a stay home Mom in a 700k home and had the Dream life. My Ah went down hill very fast, lost his job so I lost any income, I got a job, only to get laid off 7 months latter, Yep the Mortgage Biz, in Irvine. I sold my house and made very little little money but enough to rent a home for a year while I'm back in school to be a nurse. I graduate in Jan. it was hard as most can tell you around here, somehow we make it. Mr C is correct sudays in Brea are my meetings I love it there. I don't get to go as offten as I like but Allanon has helped very much, so has Mr.C
You see I nearly died thru this I hit MY bottom my AH has still to hit his, but I'm okay the kids are okay and moving out of my dream home was not so bad either, I'm now leasing to own my new home and I love it. Pull from the people around you and let them help. If I could do this anyone can!
Kermmie
You see I nearly died thru this I hit MY bottom my AH has still to hit his, but I'm okay the kids are okay and moving out of my dream home was not so bad either, I'm now leasing to own my new home and I love it. Pull from the people around you and let them help. If I could do this anyone can!
Kermmie
Member
Join Date: Jul 2004
Location: Starting over all over again
Posts: 4,426
Hi there Kay Rae, and pleased to meet you.
I'm really sorry you are going thru all this hardship. I know how difficult it is because I went thru it too.
At one time I owned three separate companies, had a great house in L.A., a wonderful wife and all kinds of good things.
I lost it all.
Part of it was the economy. My customers went broke and so all my companies had no income and I had to shut them down. My wife became addicted to pills and that ended my marriage. I hung on to the marriage for _years_ and that sucked out most of my savings. Then I contracted a terminal condition, and the insurance companies ate up the last of my money.
I ended up in Las Vegas, living in a tiny apartment behind the salvation army. No money, no marriage, and my health quickly deteriorating.
I had a sponsor tell me once that all the things I can hold with my hands are not worth holding. It's those things that I can _not_ hold in my hands that I should hold on to no matter what. So I held on to my program of recovery, I held on to my friends, and to my faith. Those were very dark times for me. The people of Al-Anon and here at SR held me up, every single day.
Today I have a very nice job. It doesn't pay much, but it covers the bills. I am making far, far less than I did back in L.A., but the bills are getting paid. I still wonder where all that money was going, back in L.A. I have a very nice little condo, with a bunch of frogs living in the mud puddle under the sprinklers. I have some wonderful friends, and I have even gone dating.
_That_ I never thought would happen again.
Today I have a life that is just as full, vibrant and free as the life I had in L.A. I have a different set of things today, but they are deeper, richer and more valuable. Today I get up in the morning grateful for another day where I can enjoy every minute. I no longer wake up angry at God for not having taken me.
You can build for yourself a life like this too. As you have heard from many other people, we all build new lives for ourselves. As others have pointed out, the "new start" is _not_ a new _location_. The new start is _within_ us.
I love the meetings at the Canyon Club in Laguna
The Canyon Club Sunday 4:00 PM
20456 Laguna Canyon Rd
(1 hour womens meeting)
920-J5 / 92651
Canyon Club Wednesday 8:00 PM
20456 Laguna Canyon Rd
920-J5 / 92651
Canyon Club, Thursday 4:30 PM
20456 Laguna Canyon Rd.
(For Women Only - 1 hour Step Study)
920-J5 / 92651
Canyon Club Friday 6:00 PM
20456 Laguna Canyon Rd
920-J5 / 92651
Canyon Club (A) Saturday 10:30 AM
20456 Laguna Canyon Rd
(Step Study)
920-J5 / 92651
Here's the Orange County directory
http://orangecountyalanon.org/meetingdirectory.html
You're going to make it thru just fine, Kay Rae. Just like all the rest of us have. Just keep coming back here, and to meetings of Al-Anon.
Mike
I'm really sorry you are going thru all this hardship. I know how difficult it is because I went thru it too.
At one time I owned three separate companies, had a great house in L.A., a wonderful wife and all kinds of good things.
I lost it all.
Part of it was the economy. My customers went broke and so all my companies had no income and I had to shut them down. My wife became addicted to pills and that ended my marriage. I hung on to the marriage for _years_ and that sucked out most of my savings. Then I contracted a terminal condition, and the insurance companies ate up the last of my money.
I ended up in Las Vegas, living in a tiny apartment behind the salvation army. No money, no marriage, and my health quickly deteriorating.
I had a sponsor tell me once that all the things I can hold with my hands are not worth holding. It's those things that I can _not_ hold in my hands that I should hold on to no matter what. So I held on to my program of recovery, I held on to my friends, and to my faith. Those were very dark times for me. The people of Al-Anon and here at SR held me up, every single day.
Today I have a very nice job. It doesn't pay much, but it covers the bills. I am making far, far less than I did back in L.A., but the bills are getting paid. I still wonder where all that money was going, back in L.A. I have a very nice little condo, with a bunch of frogs living in the mud puddle under the sprinklers. I have some wonderful friends, and I have even gone dating.
_That_ I never thought would happen again.
Today I have a life that is just as full, vibrant and free as the life I had in L.A. I have a different set of things today, but they are deeper, richer and more valuable. Today I get up in the morning grateful for another day where I can enjoy every minute. I no longer wake up angry at God for not having taken me.
You can build for yourself a life like this too. As you have heard from many other people, we all build new lives for ourselves. As others have pointed out, the "new start" is _not_ a new _location_. The new start is _within_ us.
I love the meetings at the Canyon Club in Laguna
The Canyon Club Sunday 4:00 PM
20456 Laguna Canyon Rd
(1 hour womens meeting)
920-J5 / 92651
Canyon Club Wednesday 8:00 PM
20456 Laguna Canyon Rd
920-J5 / 92651
Canyon Club, Thursday 4:30 PM
20456 Laguna Canyon Rd.
(For Women Only - 1 hour Step Study)
920-J5 / 92651
Canyon Club Friday 6:00 PM
20456 Laguna Canyon Rd
920-J5 / 92651
Canyon Club (A) Saturday 10:30 AM
20456 Laguna Canyon Rd
(Step Study)
920-J5 / 92651
Here's the Orange County directory
http://orangecountyalanon.org/meetingdirectory.html
You're going to make it thru just fine, Kay Rae. Just like all the rest of us have. Just keep coming back here, and to meetings of Al-Anon.
Mike
Power is not having to respond
Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: Wabbit Hole
Posts: 1,923
Hi kay,
I am sorry you have to live like that.
my exah went got addicted to drugs and went through his entire 401k in less than 6 months. This educated, funny, decent man went straight down the tubes and nearly took me with him financially.
I had to move out of the house and into a small apartment. It was a huge change, but it wound up to be the best thing for me. I finally had peace.
I hope things get better for you.
I am sorry you have to live like that.
my exah went got addicted to drugs and went through his entire 401k in less than 6 months. This educated, funny, decent man went straight down the tubes and nearly took me with him financially.
I had to move out of the house and into a small apartment. It was a huge change, but it wound up to be the best thing for me. I finally had peace.
I hope things get better for you.
Currently Active Users Viewing this Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
