My anniversary
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My anniversary
Well.....I guess it is no longer my anniversary. If we had stayed together, it would be 21 years today. I did not really think about it until I wrote a check today....and realized today is August 2. Wow....I still remember the day vividly. She was so beautiful, I was kind of cute too.....we had a horse drawn carriage take us from the church.
It has been about two years since Dday, when I discovered the affair. I have been officially divorced for almost a year. I can tell all of you there is life after this nightmare. I am no longer the wreck I was in the first few months. I have healed.....but I am scarred. I have dated, met some very nice ladies......but in many ways I am numb to their needs and desires to have a more real relationship with me. I enjoy their company, I am polite, I try to be a gentleman. But I don't feel. One day, I hope this may to pass.
I am Mr. Mom. I am very lucky. The girls are off visiting there Mom now for two weeks. Its the first time they have seen her in over a year. ( Background: She is an alcoholic who ran off with her rehab lover. She almost drank herself to death and after a hospital stay, she is now with her folks....sober now almost 5 months. But I have doubts it will last.) I talk to girls every day. They seem O.K., but I know they miss me and home. However, Its a start.... Maybe one day the girls can rebuild a relationship with their mother. It will never be the same as it once was...but maybe one day it will be good.
Any who......Thanks to all my friends here at SR who have helped me through the dark times.
It has been about two years since Dday, when I discovered the affair. I have been officially divorced for almost a year. I can tell all of you there is life after this nightmare. I am no longer the wreck I was in the first few months. I have healed.....but I am scarred. I have dated, met some very nice ladies......but in many ways I am numb to their needs and desires to have a more real relationship with me. I enjoy their company, I am polite, I try to be a gentleman. But I don't feel. One day, I hope this may to pass.
I am Mr. Mom. I am very lucky. The girls are off visiting there Mom now for two weeks. Its the first time they have seen her in over a year. ( Background: She is an alcoholic who ran off with her rehab lover. She almost drank herself to death and after a hospital stay, she is now with her folks....sober now almost 5 months. But I have doubts it will last.) I talk to girls every day. They seem O.K., but I know they miss me and home. However, Its a start.... Maybe one day the girls can rebuild a relationship with their mother. It will never be the same as it once was...but maybe one day it will be good.
Any who......Thanks to all my friends here at SR who have helped me through the dark times.
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GuyInNcOne day you will get there so far it is growth! So take this day and turn it into a Happy Day of growth and strength that you made it through the nightmare!
There is someone for everyone and this day to shall come in time!
Lots of Hugs to you!
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(((Guy))); a similar thing happened to me this week. I saw the date and remembered that 30yr earlier was the day exAH gave me my engagement ring.
I have been divorced from him about a year now,too and feel just as you described (but have not dated....I am way to shell-shocked for that).
Just wanted you to know I think I understand just what you are saying and feeling right now.
(Glad you posted this,too.)
I have been divorced from him about a year now,too and feel just as you described (but have not dated....I am way to shell-shocked for that).
Just wanted you to know I think I understand just what you are saying and feeling right now.
(Glad you posted this,too.)
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Ah yes, the memories, the lost pages of our life, a day to pause and reflect.
And then, it becomes a new day, a day new day to celebrate your life.
You are blessed, you have your children, you have you, and tomorrow is a another day, another anniversary, a new day!
And then, it becomes a new day, a day new day to celebrate your life.
You are blessed, you have your children, you have you, and tomorrow is a another day, another anniversary, a new day!
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Hello Guy,
Yes it has been awhile has it not.
You have come along way. You know it’s been 3 years on my own now, and things do change.
Well at least for us they do.
In fact I’m happier now, I can honestly say that.
Keep walking the path my friend…….
Yes it has been awhile has it not.
You have come along way. You know it’s been 3 years on my own now, and things do change.
Well at least for us they do.
In fact I’m happier now, I can honestly say that.
Keep walking the path my friend…….
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(((guy)))
small world. Today would have been my 20th anniversary, and it makes me sad to think of all that might have been but never will be, but him walking out on me freed me of the burden he had become. It's been 10 years since the divorce so I've had time to come to grips with it. It was necessary. The relationship was poisonous.
It's also the first anniversary of the death of the dog I had when the marriage fell apart, and that hurts more than the memory of the ruined marriage. I'd gotten the dog to make up for being neglected by the husband so she was the recipient of all the emotional energy involved in a disintegrating, possibly alcoholic marriage.
You'll get through it. The first year is the hardest, and you've gotten through that.
Too soon to be dating. You need more time to heal. I was told it takes two years to recover and it seems to work that way for me.
small world. Today would have been my 20th anniversary, and it makes me sad to think of all that might have been but never will be, but him walking out on me freed me of the burden he had become. It's been 10 years since the divorce so I've had time to come to grips with it. It was necessary. The relationship was poisonous.
It's also the first anniversary of the death of the dog I had when the marriage fell apart, and that hurts more than the memory of the ruined marriage. I'd gotten the dog to make up for being neglected by the husband so she was the recipient of all the emotional energy involved in a disintegrating, possibly alcoholic marriage.
You'll get through it. The first year is the hardest, and you've gotten through that.
Too soon to be dating. You need more time to heal. I was told it takes two years to recover and it seems to work that way for me.
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