finding help for me and kids?
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finding help for me and kids?
I have finally come to grips with the fact that I need to seek counseling for us in dealing with AH addiction. I know that Alanon is a great thing. But what is available for those of us that have no child care? I'm not comfortable taking my son to a place and telling him that we are seeking help for his dad. I also don't want my husband to know that I'm seeking help either. He likes to try and control my time and such. But I need something. Does Alanon have a hotline or anything that could maybe point me in a good direction? But I'm happy to have found this site. It has given me so much encouragement!
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If you go to the Alanon site they can direct you to meetings in your area.
Some have child care.
Some have meetings for children. As far as not feeling comfortable with telling your child about this, you need to get over that.
The uncomfortable part should be having your child exposed to living this way.
Alanon is for the whole family, you and your son.
Some have child care.
Some have meetings for children. As far as not feeling comfortable with telling your child about this, you need to get over that.
The uncomfortable part should be having your child exposed to living this way.
Alanon is for the whole family, you and your son.
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(((Wish))) Mr. C is right some have child care-and please fill your children in on what is going on-hiding it from them will only damage them later in life-which is not healthy for them to live their own lives.
Maybe a childrens counselor? My girlfriend's son went to one after she divorced and then her other son passed away-her other son was only 13 and so much trauma in his life already....
Maybe a childrens counselor? My girlfriend's son went to one after she divorced and then her other son passed away-her other son was only 13 and so much trauma in his life already....
Last edited by Rella927; 08-01-2007 at 06:02 AM.
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Kids are pretty smart these days. Your child probably knows something is wrong already. They know when things aren't running smooth and mom is upset about something.
It would probably help your child to know exactly what's going on. Kids sometimes think they've done something wrong and we don't want them thinking whatever problems that are happening at home are their fault.
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It would probably help your child to know exactly what's going on. Kids sometimes think they've done something wrong and we don't want them thinking whatever problems that are happening at home are their fault.
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Hi there Wish, and glad to meet you 
In many places Al-Anon operates a program for kids that has meetings at the same time as Al-Anon meetings. For the older kids it's called Al-Ateen, and for the younger ones it is Ala-Tot. It's a wonderful program and I've seen it do miracles out here in my neck of the woods. And yes, many Al-Anon meets provide childcare.
You can find meetings here
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/meetings/meeting.html
or look them up in your phone book.
Mike
In many places Al-Anon operates a program for kids that has meetings at the same time as Al-Anon meetings. For the older kids it's called Al-Ateen, and for the younger ones it is Ala-Tot. It's a wonderful program and I've seen it do miracles out here in my neck of the woods. And yes, many Al-Anon meets provide childcare.
You can find meetings here
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/meetings/meeting.html
or look them up in your phone book.
Mike
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