My MIL is gone
 

I managed to avoid her all weekend. She hung out with AH and the kids. I did my own thing. Not one word between us. Felt pretty good. AH didn't drink. That was good too. But after she left, he was exuding his irritability. I know the trick all too well. He was egging me on, waiting for me to ask what's wrong so he could download his trailer truck of bs on me. So I didn't ask. Pretended not to notice.

I'm sure his mommy was miffed that I blew her off. He is probably ticked that I did it too. But that was a new boundary for me. I am officially through with his mommy. He can hang on to her breasts for the rest of his life, but I'll no longer play the game.

well hells bells...I think you are a fine example of detachment!!

Good on you, luv!

Super!

Good Move!

Congrats on setting those boundaries and keeping firm! I'm sure it felt darned good.

Yeah, it felt pretty good. That was part one though. Part two will be me learning to not spend time hoping she was hurt by it. I have some real issues with her. So, I think it was a good thing for me that I didn't speak to her. But I also would love to know that she was offended that I didn't speak to her. I want to show her a lesson. I want to snub her. That's about as honest as I can be.

And I realize all of those thoughts are not healthy. That's what I need to work on next. Getting the resentment out of my head, and seeing her for the benign bat she really is.